My niece messaged me that they were coming by with the new baby tomorrow. She asked if it was okay to bring a load of laundry to do. Both were totally okay, of course. It will be fun to have them over and I know my mother will love meeting her new great grandson.
So my mother said that she wanted me to go to the store tomorrow morning to buy the baby an outfit. I told her no, I wasn't going to do that. We had bought gifts for the baby shower, so we didn't need to buy anything extra. She got mad, of course, and started bullying. I just told her no, I wasn't going to do that.
So then she said that "we" would offer to do their laundry each week if they would bring it by. I said that no, we weren't going to do that. They were adults now, so could do their own laundry. Of course, they also would prefer to do their own. Most people do. Well, Mom said that yes, we are going to do it. I told her she could do it if she wanted to, but "we" were not going to.
Needless to say, my mother is not so happy with me tonight. Of course, I'm wondering what turnip truck she thinks I fell off of.
They also want to be overly generous.. usually with those who are no longer generous to us..and they seem to not get their generosity is actually adding more work for me and not them.
I have my hands full just getting through the day and providing the care that they need.. I don't need any extra work due to their "generosity"
Good work with boundaries .. you need to set them before you realize you have been suckered in ... again.
If she raises the issue of laundry again, maybe you want to say something like "when would YOU have time to do the laundry and visit with the baby too?"
I know you can hold your own but I just thought that might be nice to throw out, to reinforce the fact that you're not Cinderella.