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My ex husband and that I lived with 16 1/2 years before his death to raise our daughters named me as his Executor and be beneficiary. The day before he passed our oldest daughter told me I would never get back into her f******g house ever again after he told her to go home and get his keys and wallet and give them to your mom Attorneys told me the written Will was not good because I wrote it. All 4 of us signed it. My oldest daughter and her boyfriend (he had been forbidden on the property) ran down the home, burned a lot of our belongings, sold a little of our things then took the rest when they left the family home. They both had warrants for ani.al cruelty because the left dogs in the house during summer with no open windows food or water. They turned alloys cats loose and the dogs left to me my daughter refusedto give them to me. She beat me up bad the day after he died trying to take the Will from me. She recently had our first grandchild and she messaged. E that I would never meet my grandson. What is crazy about this story is the fact we were all very close before he passed away. This was all greed. I have not been able to get any legal help and they took allot of my personal things with them. When we moved to Tennessee from Flirida he bought the house and I furnished the house. He States that in the Will. Do I have any rights at all. We were together a total of 38 years living together his last 16 1/2 years. In the will it even stated I was to stay in he house and the girls had to wait 3 years. The reason for that was because of the oldest daughter and the troubles we had. I was homeless for almost 3 weeks.ifit wasnt for Jacks restaurant my dog and i would have starved. We worked very hard in florida to be able to do what we have but in an instant they just took everything including all my thingsand my furniture. His estate was valued at $400,000. I have added up all that was mine plus what he left for me and it totals $100,000. Please can someone help me.

I don't think the Will is not valid nor enforceable. You need to go to an elder law attorney. The estate will probably end up in probate court, but since there is not a valid Will the heirs will have to agree on who will be appointed administrator and agree to disbursement of the assets.

Since there is so much acrimony among the heirs the judge will probably take it out of your hands and appoint a public administrator. A public administrator "steps into your shoes" and makes lawful determinations about how the assets are divided.

I am so sorry that you are going through this financial mess and relationship mess, and I wish you the best outcome possible.
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First, you were there for 16 1/2 years and you call him your ex. Were you divorced? Why did he not do this will long ago himself and why did you write it and not him? Was he of sound mind? Why did he not use a notary and outside witnesses? Why did you not call the police about the burning on items, physical abuse and stealing? Are you in a community property state that will consider common law? I think no since you already mentioned attorneys (plural), said you have no recourse. Why would you think this forum could help? Your best bet is to take what you legally can and walk far away from them all. Lose all contact.
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Just coming back to say I made a mistake calling it a holistic will rather than a holographic will. And yes they are recognized in many US states, but there are conditions (which were not met in this case).
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For a will to be valid in Tennessee it needs to be signed by two witnesses, neither of whom will inherit anything. Since your daughters would inherit after three years, their signatures do not count as witnesses. It also would need to be in your husband's handwriting, not yours.

If you were married at the time of his death and there was no other will, then you and your daughters would each inherit one-third of his estate. However, if you were divorced (you refer to him as your ex), your daughters will each inherit half and you do not inherit anything.

Who is living in the house now? Is the house in his name only?

You could go to the police and ask to charge your daughter and her boyfriend with theft, arson, and assault.
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If you were married and there is still an estate, go to Probate in the county your husband died. You can become Administrator and do what an Executor would do. Difference, the State determines who gets what. The widow gets a % and the children get a % they split.

If you were not married, then you cannot inherit without a propper Will. And you have been told, by a lawyer, the Will is invalid. You really have no leg to stand on. His children can go to Probate and start the process. When all is said and done, they can inherit Dads estate. You gave up all rights when you divorced him.

You can't get a lawyer to help you because you don't have a case worth their time. It takes money to sue. If your husband was collecting Social Security, you could probably get survivor benefits if married over 10 years.
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Yes, an ATTORNEY (and no one else) can help you.
This thing about your writing the will is of great concern; it well may not hold up in court. But we as a Forum of utter strangers could not make any judgment on all of that.

You have your local police, sheriff. You have APS. You have attorneys in your area. This is where you need to start looking for help.

I am sorry for all the mess and travail, and I wish you the best.
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A lot will matter whether or not you were actually married. I agree with cwillie that a handwritten Will -- especially one that is not notarized -- is the domain of a good elder law attorney.

If you were actually married to him for at least 10 years you can apply to receive his SS income but you will need both the marriage and divorce documents as proof.
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You call him your ex, were you divorced from this man at the time of his death or not? I imagine your only legal recourse is to sue the estate.
As for the holistic Will, I know first hand that the whole thing must be in his own writing to be considered, signatures can be coerced (or faked)
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