they do get home, they are so exhausted that they sleep for several hours during the day. My mom's health keeps declining. I want and do help them, but if they're not willing to do the necessary things, just be on the go, should I handle all the house and bills so they can keep going? They are 83 and 79. Personally, I feel like my mom's health would improve if they balanced their schedule and just declined some of their invitations. Really, they will be gone from their house for 10 hours in a day. I feel guilty but then I feel like they should be willing to give in some also. I'm just feeling guilty and depressed.
Sorry you had to experience that.
I can't see it any other way than being lazy & callused to impose on another in that way. Total disregard for another. How hateful & selfish.
My husband and I spent 3 yrs & 8 gallons of bleach knee deep in mouse poo & dust bunnies cleaning out my hoarder dad's house so my mom could sell the place. It undoubtedly took years off of our lives and now we get to clean up after hoarder mom. Society has no idea what a contribution we have made by cleaning up after these two. The A&E channel has programs about hoarders now. They say it's an illness. Sure does make me sick!!!!!
I intend to make it easy to clean up after me when I go. I have a degree of compassion for other folks that drives me & I don't want this to happen to anyone else.
This may be the start of a hell you will be in for a looooong time. Read the other entries on this site and educate yourself.
INDEPENDANCE REQUIRES RESPONSIBILITY!!!!!