Live in FIL has filled his room with old work awards. He has basically decorated his room as a shrine to himself. There is not one square inch of wall space left. I just ignore it because we gave him the room and it’s his to do what he wants. Secondly, is it common or normal for an 85 yr old man to constantly talk about himself? First, he talks about his health all the time. If not talking about his health, he talks about all the things he has done work wise in the past. I’m thinking maybe because that’s who he was and his identity was tied up in his work. What behaviors can one expect from an 85 year old?
The very first thing that was said about seniors sums this up perfectly. The senior years are our reflective years because there are more years behind us than in front of us so this it’s why it’s natural for this age group to reflect.
It’s the opposite for people in their 20’s which were referred to as the building years with many years to look ahead.
Anyway it was really interesting how the age groups were described by the decades, building years, marriage, career advances, children, retirement, reflecting and so on.
I wasn't familiar with the term narcissist either until a few months ago. I thought that it was someone who was just very full of themselves, but, it's much more. I did a lot of reading about it and spotted a couple of people that I have known who fit it perfectly. I never could figure out WHY these people that I knew behaved the way they did. THEN, I found out why. I'm no expert, but, according to what I read, some symptoms of this condition often involves people who lack empathy for others, demand control over others, feign affection, wear a mask of being a nice person, when they really aren't, delight in hurting others and have no conscience of their wrong doing.