To me, an emergency that requires me to drop whatever I am involved with, is getting my father to the toilet in my 2 min window.
Everything else, is non-emergency, and if I am cooking, cleaning, or just spending some time to myself...I should not be expected to do for him right NOW.
What is with NOW? What happened to being patient and waiting?
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Since the stroke and his return home, if I receive a phone call, he will pick up the phone in his room and listen in....it really irritates me, because its none of his business, and I will literally have to go and take the phone from him. Why? Before the stroke, he never cared, and left me to my own during calls....
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Dressing to go out....
Its such a maddening affair. He has what he wants in mind, but can't explain to me what it is....Tonight, I just laid out a pile of clothes on the bed, and I'm letting him mull it over.
My father was promised by my brother, that he would UPS the TV here.
He lied. My brother took said TV and brought it to his mother inlaws. And now says, it would cost the same to UPS it here, as it would to go out and just replace it. He wouldn't of had to share that burden alone, the people who gave dad the TV were perfectly willing to cover the charge of sending it to him.
I have a selfish pig as an older brother.
His idea of whats best for Dad, is tossing him into a nursing home, and wiping his hands of the situation.
Im a firm believer in Karma.
He wont do puzzles.
He has meds that treat Alzheimer's, and I experience a lot of confusion, I just dont know rather its the stroke or the alzheimer's thats causing it.