We need to have work done on our one "good " car. I have told her many times that these things needed to be taken care of, but she:
1 Denies I ever told her about the issues
2. Says we don't have the money to do the repairs ( I personally handle her finances as her legal POA, and she can easily pay for the work)
And,
3. Is convinced that we are going to be scammed at the dealership.
Of course, her not remembering is my fault. I have according to her, never said anything, don't know about her finances, etc. Of course, being the evil child give her nothing except problems.
I am watching one parent trying to reason with the other over such things. His priority is to be respectful, inclusive & reason together - her priorities seem to be to never spend any money, keeping things exactly the same, relying on a faulty memory to remember when things where last repaired & to what has already been discussed & decided on.
That step is a real doosie! What step do you think you & your Mom are on?
If you are the "evil child" I doubt she will miss you if you go.
If you stay, it is easiest to remember it is by your own choice.