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So sorry for your loss Rocket.
I am glad you had the great support and were able to be there with your mom, to see her out.
Take care of yourself. I like the cremation plans.
Hugs
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(((((hugs)))) rocket My deepest condolences, Your mum had a lovely send off. Be proud.
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{{{{{hugs}}}}} Rocket. May your mother's memory be a blessing to you. That is a lovely send off you all gave her. Peace.
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"How lovely" is not what I'd normally say when I read of somebody's loss, but your description was so touching, Rocket. May your mother enjoy an eternal picnic in a beautiful place.

And you? How are you?
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Rocket, I am so sorry for your loss, your sweet Mom is at peace, and I am glad you were there with her in her final moments, I too had a very simular experience losing my Mom, and it was a painful yet beautiful time for all of us, her poor old body had just had enough of this earthly world, and she was ready to join my Dad in Heaven.

Once the pain of initial grieving settles down, you will be left with all of the fond memories of happier times with your Mom, and in time, most of the sadness will be slowly wane. You will find your new normal, but it does take time. Allow yourself to grieve, and seek help if you feel you need to, there is no shame in that. For now, take some time to rest and to take care of yourself. Big Hugs, you have been an Amazing Caregiver! Your Mom is in a Beautiful Place!
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Hugs! What a beautiful testimony to her life. The love you have for her speaks loudly.

I am sorry for your loss 🌹 may The Lord give you and your family grieving mercies.
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No matter how prepared you are. It is still difficult. My mom passed March 24 from dementia and I grieve every day. My thoughts are with you and your family
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Rockerjkat,
I lost my Luz March 21 this year and I can fully understand what you are feeling.
My deepest and sincerest condolences. May God give you the strength for the journey ahead.
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So sorry Rocket, My heart and prayers go out to and for you. You did a great job.
May God give you strength through this difficult part of the journey.
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Rocket, I am so sorry for the loss of your dear mom.
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What an amazing daughter you are!  I send you a very big hug. There is a support group on Facebook for those people whose Mother has died. You have to ask to join (that's so they can keep trolls out-there are some sick people out there), but I have found it another support system in addition to being in here.  You take care of yourself in the coming weeks and hold onto the knowledge that you gave your Mother such a wonderful gift in helping her to leave this world without pain.  Again, I send you a very big hug.
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Rocketjcat,

My condolences on the loss of your sweet mother. Thank you for sharing with us her final moments.
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So sorry for your loss. Take care. Hugs!💗
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I hope you find comfort that she was your Sunshine. I betting you were hers too. Thoughts and prayers to you and your family.
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Update: Thank you all so much for your kind thoughts, I have cherished every one of them. You have no idea how comforting they are! I’m going to attempt to print this all out so I have a wonderful memory to look back at someday. I am slowly getting used to what a new normal may feel like. The days have a lot more hours now, so I’m trying to keep busy with deferred projects, and soon the gardening will start. DH and I are talking about a vacation, since we haven’t gone anywhere in 3 years. I’ve ordered her “”In Memory of” grave markers and just waiting for them to be delivered in a few weeks for the 2 cemeteries. And waiting for a little warmer weather for the sprinkling at Fair Haven, where I’ll have a picnic for family and some friends, just like the old days. I think I have a pretty good plan.
The grief comes at strange times! Planning at the funeral home... fine. Ordering the the grave markers at the monument place...no problem. Cleaning out her room at the NH...not too bad. Calling the insurance company... basket case sobbing and can’t talk. Weird. However I have found myself smiling when I glance at her picture now, so that’s a good sign.
Yesterday I woke up with this thought in my head. I’m no poet and don’t journal or anything, but I wrote it down. I wasn’t sure what to do with it, but then I thought I’d share it here, as I think you kind people will understand.

The picture came down today
A collage of memories
Of her old friends long gone 
Of sunny days at Fair Haven
Of laughter and good times 
Of her proud parents always smiling 
Of a knight on a brown horse
Of a Mom taking care
Of the one left to pack it carefully away 
The picture came down today.
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The poetry is beautiful rocket.
Thanks for the update and for sharing your plans. I’m happy you have your DH to share this time with. I love the idea of a picnic. Such a sweet way to mark your mom’s passing.
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So sorry for your loss. Hugs 🤗
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So sorry for your loss rocket. I lost my mom september of last year and im still missing her everyday. But its easier now to remember the good times inetead of the struggle at the end. And you are so right about the people here. What a godsend. Be safe and take care. Deb
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We're with you, rocketjcat!
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Prayers coming your way. Always look up. Not down. God is there.
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Beautiful poem.
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Love and blessings coming your way....may you have the peace in your heart, knowing you did the very best for your mom....we will all be thinking of y’all in the coming days.....Elizabeth
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