Mom had several bad falls, multiple broken bones and was suffering horribly. We started hospice yesterday. AL called me, she was actively dying this am. I jumped in the car, drove all day but she died 30 minutes before I got there.
My BIL and nephews were with her and dad. It was peaceful. Dad kissed her goodbye and cried a bit but the boys and staff got him to the lobby by the time I got there. By then he was happily telling his fishing stories.
I’ve hardly processed it all yet. I’m so relieved that she did not spend months suffering from all her injuries.
My thanks to all the good folks on this forum. I’ve learned so much and gotten such great support through the years.
I have been following your journey. May you be able to have Grace and Peace in the coming days. I know you will still be there for your Dad. I'm sorry to hear about your Mama.
We get what we're given. You're taking a very sensible and practical view, as ever.
I hope you'll be able to arrange a smooth transition for your father. I really feel for you on how poignant his semi-disconnect is. Obviously you don't want him to be shattered, but it is tragic in a different way that he's lost the thread of his own life story.
Look after yourself - I'm glad you have family there to rally round you.
You have a big beautiful heart! Pictured you looking back at your dad...I know that feeling. Sending you peace and comfort Windy.
Please know how sorry I am for your loss, and know that I am thinking of you! It's been such a long and winding road for us both, but time has a way of taking care of us all, whether it is in loss, or just us stepping up and dealing with things as they come at us.
I hope your Dad is doing alright, and that his Dementia is a story of blessing in disguise, so that he transitions easier, in his life now without her. You are a Fantastic Son, a Super Hero in my book, in the care of your folks these last few years!
I know you loved and cared for your Mom, very much, and will miss her greatly. You remember to take care of you! Again Love, So sorry! Stacey B