I have no siblings, and was living in Oklahoma when my dad passed in September last year. My aunt took my mom somewhere and refuses to tell anyone even the police what she did with her. I've now moved back to Memphis when she is from, but I have no money for an attorney or even a job at this point. My mother had no money, so I don't understand why my aunt is doing this. My mother had been incapacitated from a stroke since 2007. How can I find out if my aunt has POA, and if so how to challenge it. Please help I need to find my mother. Thank you so much.
I do think your persepctive differs from that of many people, including me. If my bank account was one of the ones that you hacked, and you stole from me, I certainly wouldn't agree that you "are not a bad person."
Update. The officer I spoke to in the beginning just called me and said he's been on vacation, and wanted some more information. He said something about this isn't right, and he thought about it the whole week he was out, and he will be doing everything he can to find her now that he is back. He knows my past, and that I am not a bad person, he feels that something is wrong with my aunt. So at least some good news. Thank you again to everyone.
I assumed Memphis was female but his post of 18 hours ago makes it clear that he’s the son, not the daughter.
Memphis queries in his original post:
“How can I find out if my aunt has POA, and if so how to challenge it.” It seems clear to me that his goals are twofold: find his mother, then challenge any POA that's been granted.
Memphis wrote in his post 17 hours ago that he’s still collecting bills from before his father died in September. He later wrote that the bills were for “euipment, a breathing machine and an electric wheelchair.” If these bills are for his mother, it seems as though she was still in the home recently.
The police knew Memphis’ mother was in a hospital but refused to give out further information. It would appear as though they may have had more knowledge of the situation.
Memphis just found bills for medicine from May of this year, so presumably his mother was living in the home at that time, or that she had left and no address change was submitted.
Memphis found cracked eggs on the stove in his mother’s house. Did his mother leave in a hurry? Seems so.
Memphis admitted he was in federal prison from 2007 forward.
If Tennessee has a victim notification program, and if Memphis' aunt and mother signed up, they would have received notification of his release.
In Michigan, this program provides notice sometimes the day before, sometimes the same day. Not much notice, and not much time to clean out a refrigerator if someone wanted to avoid the person being released.
Read PamStegman’s insightful post of 15 hours ago, comment no. 21.
Are Pam, FreqFlyer and me the only ones who see that the aunt may have removed Memphis mother for her own protection?
I'm not insulting anyone who's trying to be helpful to Memphis but there's obviously a lot going on in this situation and it seems as though law enforcement knew not to provide any information on how Memphis can locate his aunt and his mother. That's revealing.
We don't know the crime for which Memphis was imprisoned, but it appears to have been a 2007 - 2014 sentence. We don't know if it was a crime against people or property, or if it was a crime against a family member.
We do know Memphis is determined, and apparently wants to challenge any POA his aunt may have.
Does someone who's just been released from prison, with a criminal record and no job, have a prayer of a hope to legally challenge (w/o any money) any POA and take care of his mother, and would her sister want this?
It's not my intention to insult Memphis but it appears as though the aunt doesn't want him involved, and she obviously has known her sister longer than Memphis. And apparently she was able to step in and provide care for her sister when needed. Is it really appropriate for Memphis to be pursuing his relatives when they've taken precautions to avoid being found?
You can beat up on me all you want, but I still say there's more to this relationship than Memphis has revealed, and the family doesn't want him involved.
As for Humana, they probably won't tell you anything but you could call them just to feel you tried. But if Humana is her health insurance, are there explanation of service notes in there? The reason I ask is that both mine and my mom's insurance providers tell who is providing service and when. If the explanation of service shows that someone goes to specific places, I wonder if you can figure out how to track her down?
If my mother went missing and she showed up for a visit at her clinic, her clinic does have social workers and, I'm not sure about this, but if I told my story, the social workers might get involved to get things worked-out.
Actually, I did not read all the posts. I see that you called the police and the hospitals and such, but did you see if APS (Adult Protective Services) or any social work office can help? I'm not saying that they can, just giving you a couple more things to try.
There's a reason why your mother left the home in such a hurry that food was left in the fridge and eggs on the table. Perhaps her sister was monitoring your status and learned of your release.
I agree with others - you're going to have to go straight, get a job, and prove yourself. If you were in prison from 2007 until this year, or even last year, that's a pretty significant sentence, either for a serious first offense or a repeat offense, or perhaps a capital offense. If either of the latter 2 options (and/or if the crime was against a person and not property), the family would understandably be leary of your presence in the family unit.
You've written that your mother is dying; how do you know? I still ask how you know that your aunt took your mother?
You might alternately suggest that you meet with your mother on neutral grounds, in a public place, so that either your aunt or your uncle can accompany her. That may give them some confidence that you and your mother won't be alone.
There is no quick solution to this, just steady day after day research. If you have a picture of your Mother, post it on Facebook and contact the local media.
You have a place to stay, if the house is livable and now you must find a job and show you are serious about becoming a productive citizen. Best wishes in finding your Mom; I cannot fathom how stressful this must be for you.
Did your Dad have a Will? If it was probated that is public info. Contact your local legal aid society for assistance. They will at least be able to tell you if there is anything you can do at this point. If your Mom receives Social Security or any kind of pension benefits, etc.; they have to be going somewhere.
WHY won't the police accept a missing person's report? Your mother has vanished from her house apparently w/o a trace - that's a missing person. Try the state police as well.
Cracked eggs on the stove? This sounds more like an abduction. Your mother was living at home, right? Were she and your aunt on good terms? Was there any reason why your mother would willingly go with your aunt without telling you? I'm assuming your mother hasn't contacted you at all?
I don't know what court would have jurisdiction over a missing person until law enforcement have proof that someone did in fact take her against her will.
How do you do know that your aunt took your mother?
Are you sure the police aren't telling you because your mother doesn't want you to know? If they knew that she was in a specific hospital, they obviously had some information on her. It just doesn't make sense to me that they wouldn't share that with you.
What about your uncle? Is he living with your aunt and have you gone to wherever that is?
When was the last time you had any contact with your mother?
I just keep thinking there's a lot more to this situation than meets the eye.
Also like another post asked is your aunt suffering from any mental illlness? this is a very very tough situation isnt there anyone from her family who may know what happened?
Your aunt must have told some lies about you if they wont give you info. I would try everything maybe radio OR churches?