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Golden, I don't believe that "belief" in any god is choice.

I am not capable of pretending I believe in something I do not believe in. It is to me like just saying I can believe that dogs can fly if I want to. I could PRETEND I believed. But I don't believe. I never did for a single second of my life. That is why I teasingly say I have no gene for it. I have read the bible and other books of faith and I love cathedrals, hymns, Saints and all of that. But I don't "believe" in them. For me it is kind of a Santa Claus thing.

So with all respect, if it were as simple as "choosing" to believe something I can't imagine why anyone wouldn't. I just don't, and can't pretend I do. It would be like my CHOOSING to believe I like escargot.

As to Neil, you believe God showed me something and I believe he fell into the lucky 10%. Makes no sense to me that God would choose to SHOW ME something, and let another woman's hubby die, because he chose NOT to show her something; I could never believe in such a being who would play at that kind of game. t-PA clot busters are very scientific. They don't "care". They work or they do not work. And time is of the essence.

So again, EVERYONE, whether you believe or do not, every single second is your brain dying after a stroke; you must get to a stroke center and as fast as you can. Call 911 at once. And believer or no, I hope you will be lucky, or blessed, or whatever.....as he was. We all will go. But this time he stayed.

Ending on a fun note, coming back from the hospital the first night his daughter B., said "Did Dad vote". And I said "Yes. By mail. Weeks ago" and her hubby, my SIL, C. said "Doesn't matter. If he dies they are gonna say "vote doesn't count; throw it out! He's a dead man". Reminded me of my favorite home town stories about Chicago, where dead men vote!

Still a bit shell shocky here. I will see him go off walking the dog and think "It could have been so different today (yeah! I could have been the one walking her). I have always wanted to be the first to exit; I hate to deal with change. My OCD kicked in supper bad, and I came home to line up little combs and pens and phones at right angles! Getting better day by day.
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Alva, thanks for sharing that, it's very interesting.

Im more I suppose spiritual, I suppose, I believe in the power of believing and the power of positive thinking.

Years ago maybe 7 or 8 years ago, the Pope came to USA , and I was caregiving a priest. So we watched it and he said something that really struck me and stayed with me forever.

He said pray for me, and for those non believers, send me hope and good wishes. So even though I do not pray to a God in the traditional sense , I do send good wishes and my type of prayers. Which really in a sence is what you do every day here.

You send all your good wishes to people, because you love and care for people. Which in my book is your way of praying for people.

But in the sence that , this one football star won the Superbowl because he prayed , is a bit silly to me, as I suspect it is to you also.
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Golden, are you doing ok? Feeling better?
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My whine: The chocolate is gone. Nothing is left in the house but Twizzlers (blech!) and stale fig newtons. I’m going for the fig newtons.
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My family called fig newtons "fly pies".
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Hahahah! Eww!
We called hotdogs “snouts”.

I know it’s not a whine but does anyone else have a good one?
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Feeling nearly normal, thanks, Psue.
Glad you are better, Nacy.
Way - how are you?

I do my best to never run out of chocolate. Worst comes to worse, you can always make a few with cocoa powder and coconut oil and whatever else you want to add.
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My whine today: people who don’t follow up!
Of course I understand it - lives are just too full. But some of the questions asked and the answers given are so darn interesting I really want to know what course people take and how things turned out.
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Peasuep, I'm use to it. I think sometimes they don't even read, but I believe, some are just so overwhelmed they don't know what to say.

When I came on , I had everyone in my inner circle telling me to " suck it up" , "do what you have to do" "she is your mom"

Then you come here and your pretty much love bombed 🤯, it can be a lot!
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Mom recently got new hearing aids.

Yes she did need new hearing aids, but I had a suspicion that much of her, not hearing what I say was more about dementia, and what I say is just not getting into her brain. Like there is a disconnection going on.

Well new hearing aids, and I honestly don't see a bit of change .
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That is frustrating, Nacy. My DH’s hearing is fine; we had it checked when he started hesitating with his answers and saying “what?” all the time. It’s just what happens once it gets inside his ears that’s the problem. He calls it Spaghetti Head now but for a long time he had no idea he wasn’t processing. I had really hoped it was a hearing issue too.
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I'm sick and tired of putting the multitude of my and my husband's meds together. If I don't do it, nobody does. All I can manage is doing them one day at a time. I can't handle putting more than that together. Since I also take many meds, my brain is limited in function, No matter what method I use, it always boils down to one day at a time. Otherwise I get confused. I'm sick of it.
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Carolyn - have you considered getting the pharmacy to dispense his meds in blister packs?
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Cwillie, yeah I get that, loneliness is hard, and it's an epidemic now days. Young, old and everything in between.

Have you considered the local library, maybe there is classes there. I like to go to my surrounding towns to thrift stores, but I stopped because the last thing I need is more stuff!

To much social media is not good for anyone.

Ugh I just put this in the wrong place. Sorry 😐
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Oh my, the days are so short, I'm trying to keep as busy as I can , from morning, till afternoon, because after 5 Im just done for the night!

Then I have to force myself to stay awake till at least 10 so I sleep good.
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It looks like dusk here at 3:30 with all these trees and with rain expected any minute. It really is hard to get used to. On the other hand, no yard work to do except blowing the leaves into the ravine.
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I also am not a fan of the early dark! i babysat my grandson today and it was raining and dark when I left. Only 3 miles but I hated it! I retired a bit over a year ago and I think this is the first time I've driven in the rain/dark since! And the deer are out!
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Pam, I hear you there, I suspect, the whine thread is going to be well used , this winter. And Yep the deer are running!

I can only cook so much, or well we can only eat so much! 😉
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Pam, I agree! I don’t know whether my night vision is worse or whether I’m just out of practice driving in the dark and rain. It’s so very glarey out there!

Nacy, my night comfort eating is starting and it’s only been a week since the time changed. I dug up my online food diary to try to head things off at the pass before I need to be the one in the Santa suit at Christmas since nothing else will fit!
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So glad we don't have to deal with deer or moose on the road any more. They were a liability.

Pam, your grandson is growing I bet. I don't like driving in the dark either. In fact I avoid it.
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Golden, -Moose! I can’t even imagine! The closest I’ve come to a moose is on Dr. Oakley! Now, deer, I’m well acquainted with - as is the front bumper of my car and several of my evergreens.
And my perennials.
And my bulbs.
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As the days go on and my Narcolepsy still awaits seeing a specialist at Duke, I frequently find myself repeating, "well, I have nothing more to say." I have nothing more to say. good night, I look forward to laying myself down to sleep, but I don't know what to pray
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Yes. moose, They are BIG!!! I nearly hit one once - heard it clopping across the highway before i saw it.
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Golden, when ever I've traveled north, and see a moose crossing sign, I think how glad I am I live a little south.

We all get use to are environments, living in tornado Alley, would be insane to me, to others possiblity of getting a 2 foot dump of snow is insanity.
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You’re right Nacy; when I lived in the SF Bay Area earthquakes were so common we barely noticed them most of the time. I would like to experience a tornado out on an open plain somewhere, but only if it I could know ahead of time that no person or property would be harmed. I think they’re beautiful.

I’d also like to see moose. I’ve seen impressive herds of Elk and Antelope, even wild horses and Bison. But Moose are more solitary, right Golden? I’d also like to hear wolves but not sure I want to see them.
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My whine: DH is not out of bed despite the usual cheery wake-up routine. Wednesday is a doctor appointment before noon (the only time available). We talked about him practicing getting up consistently when I called him but I did not have high hopes.
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Ahem, tornadoes are not beautiful, they are scary AF.
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Goes to show you beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.

I will say I do like to watch , tornado chasers, but I will die happy, if I never see a tornado. 😀

Peasuep, have you talked to the office, about your issue getting him up? So Incase you can't , they don't charge you. I'm sure you know this but for you, make the morning as easy for you as possible. If hubby won't get dressed, bring him in his pj's, besides that will show them , that there is a definite issue.
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Nacy, it’s a new doctor unfortunately so we’ll have to establish a relationship. After that I assume they will be more understanding. Specialists are hard since they are scarce and you have to take what you can get.

The natural world is wonderful and mysterious to me, even the dangerous and deadly parts. Something so powerful that is not made or controlled by human beings is scary AND beautiful in my very, very humble opinion. But I’m odd that way - I even find viruses beautiful and fascinating!
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Peasuep, I like bugs, 😂 I find them fascinating. Some are pretty some are pretty ugly, but I find the interesting, and never understood, the whole girly thing screaming when the see a bug.

Spiders , can be a bit creepy, but I still like them .
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