Countrymouse Posted November 2018
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Replacing the much lamented 'On My Mind' profile option, this thread is for musings, jottings, whimsies, preoccupations and the rest of the thesaurus for anyone to jot down anything they please.
I can't remember what the maximum character count was before, can anyone else? But anyway it wasn't very many so let's keep to that.
So AB eats every meal with us. We only eat twice a day, breakfast and dinner. He likes some seperate things than us, and some special things we don't eat etc. He contributes to the groceries, on his own initiative. However DH and I were discussing what is really a fair amount of contribution. So since we cannot agree, I am asking what you all would see as a fair amount for someone to contribute to groceries, per week. Thank you
Sorry so long,
Typically per month, we spend around $450 -$500 on groceries for 2 adults and 2 growing eating machine teenagers. Depending on where you live, meat and produce can vary greatly in price. Fortunately for me, I live very close to a Business Costco, meat there is even cheaper than regular Costco.
So, to answer your question, depending on how much you spend on groceries per week, AB should contribute 1/4 of it, give or take, since you have 4 people in your household.
Good question.
AB's meals are mostly cooked and provided by you?
I suggest a generous monthly contribution for an individual living in your home.
Because of your lifestyle, (serving each person a separate choice), it would be impossible to save money on food. Most households cook the same for everyone, buy in bulk to save money. For example, mac n cheese nite, everyone eats same, not too much added expense. Your situation is a bit different.
One "formula" could simply be to divide the grocery bill by how many are living there. Even so, it should not cost you more out of your own pocket to feed AB.
It is almost impossible to serve each person a separate meal choice and save money.
In addition, you could take him to the market to buy extra and separate items just for him, at his own expense.
And if eating out, "food to go", he pays his portion then.
My concern for you is, to keep it simple, there is enough on your mind. Changing your cooking lifestyle now or really stretching the budget is too much to ask, imo.
You are not running a charity or a facility. You can save up any extra not spent on AB's food for a holiday treat or birthday party.
Over the period of a year, the weekly expense will be 4.33 weeks per month, not the monthly divided by just 4 weeks. I suggest to agree on a monthly amount, in advance.
$140 per week.
Just found out what you meant by " another overnight {shooting} in Dayton.
This must be devasting not only for the victims and their families, but those of us hearing, not knowing what to do.
And being concerned, and afraid.
Let's all support each other today.
And HUGS to those living alone, who may not have a pet to hug.
I took all your thoughts in consideration. And came to an agreement that I believe is fair. I truly appreciate all your input.
And Pam wow 2000 a month in groceries, all their food must be sprinkled with gold.
Thank you all again. Very much.
I can let this one go from my mind.🤗
STOIC
Friends on here can share things, they do not have to be Stoic, because they have us.
My father would have been 133 on his birthday, July 18th. Still remember, and if I don't, my brother sends out an email to remind sister and I.
It feels weird, not so sad because I wouldn't want to have lived that long. But a reminder, he has passed.
"Inexpensive guards typically work for an "observe and report" agency, which contracts security guards who are not trained to act in high-risk situations, but report events to the police. An unarmed security guard typically costs $12-$20 per hour, while an armed security guard costs typically costs $18-$25 per hour."
Or, how about a chauffeur, or driver?
it is difficult to find one offering 2hour minimum as most are 4 hours
family owned agencies tend to be cheaper but maybe don't have a large enough pool to tap if regular caregiver doesn't show up
expect a range of $25 an hour with a 4 hour min
...And a specific thing I just want to highlight is this red flag policy. There's something very interesting I want to share with you. This was from last year on March 12 from the White House. President Trump got behind the idea of red flag orders that can take guns out of the hands of those people who shouldn't have them.
Let's just be really clear about what the president was supporting here, calling on every state to adopt extreme risk protection orders, directing the Department of Justice to provide technical assistance to states on establishing and implementing them, allowing law enforcement to remove firearms from individuals who demonstrate a threat to themselves or others. And then, very importantly, doing all of this in a way that ensures the due process rights of law-abiding citizens.
This seems to me a very, very promising area for us to pursue, because actually the governor of Arizona, Doug Ducey, is trying to implement a version of this law that actually has the support of the NRA. And I think this could be exactly the kind of practical thing that we ought to focus on.
"Keep about your work. Do not flinch because the lion roars. Do not stop to stone the devil’s dogs. Do not fool around your time chasing the devil’s rabbits. Do your work; let liars lie; let sectarians quarrel; let editors publish; let the devil do his worst. But see to it that nothing hinders you from fulfilling the work God has given you. He had not sent you to make money; He has not commanded you to get rich. He has never bidden you to defend your character nor has He bidden you to contradict falsehoods about yourself which satan and his servants may start to peddle. If you do these things you will do nothing else; you will be at work for yourself and not for the Lord. Keep about your work. Let your aim be as steady as a star. Let the world brawl and bubble. You may be assaulted, wronged, insulted, slandered, wounded, and rejected. You may be chased by foes, abused by them, forsaken by friend, despised and rejected of men, but see to it that with steadfast determination and with unfaltering zeal you pursue that great purpose of your life and the object of your being until at last you can say; “I have finished the work which you, dear God, have given me to do?”
(Psalm 37:13 KJV)
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I have brought 2 drawers worth of files from my filing cabinet and 2 big plastic bins into my family room. There is a baseball game coming on that I want to watch so, here I go...
This is paperwork belonging to my deceased loved ones. It’s time for it to be gone. I am taking it to town tomorrow to be shredded.
I have all Drivers Liscense, Social Security Cards, Birth and Death Certificates in my Safe.
I know I need to glance over most of this stuff but is there anything that I should destroy myself and not send to the pay by the pound shredding place?
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