Countrymouse Posted November 2018
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Replacing the much lamented 'On My Mind' profile option, this thread is for musings, jottings, whimsies, preoccupations and the rest of the thesaurus for anyone to jot down anything they please.
I can't remember what the maximum character count was before, can anyone else? But anyway it wasn't very many so let's keep to that.
So good to hear from you. I am not in Florida but thanking you for thinking of those who are. Wishing you well there in Italy.
The wife asked for a picture of my sisters and me with her after the closing. I thought that was very sweet. I hope they are as happy in that house as my parents were.
Im hoping they have a decent relationship with the neighbors. The lady next door has three adult sons and one of them continually blocks the driveway. He is a real piece of work. But that’s no longer my problem.
When DH and I sold the first home that we owned to relocate to another state ,
a young couple bought it . The guy was very excited about the house. They were getting married also . The guy asked if he could bring his parents over to see the house since we weren’t moving out for a few months . We said sure , so the parents came and the young couple . The young future wife was not thrilled about the house . She wanted a bigger house but the prices had sky rocketed that year . While the guy gave his parents a tour of our house , the young bride didn’t even go with them . She sat on the couch with me and admitted to me that the only reason she agreed to buy my house was because it was spotless . She said she couldn’t believe how people lived . She said they looked at a lot of houses and was shocked that people didn’t even bother to try to clean before putting it on the market.
Talk about weird . She was venting to me that she didn’t like my house that she was buying .
I am sorry that buyer of your home overstepped in such a fashion. A similar thing happened to me when the former neighbor of my mother's wanted to tell me many details about the person who bought her precious home. I did not allow it. Much to hard to even vacate the home for so many reasons. Hugs to you.
Are these young first time buyers ?
Maybe they are excited , and assume you’d like to see how they care for the home .
Cwillie I caved in. The heat is on. 😂
First of all I think a lot of personal contact is a bad idea. I HAVE seen people become friends and then have someone say "I found woodrot under the rug! You didn't disclose that!" and it turn into a broo-haha. I don't think that will happen here and she is likely a lovely woman.
I would tell her simply that you appreciate the request (send a private message as you can), but that you need for now to move on and move away from a home that while you had many many joyous times, now makes you know the losses that come to us. That you will entrust its wonder and beauty to them and hope they have as many lovely times, but wish to avoid any hurt as you move on to this new adventure for yourself."
I would just think that best all around. And really, it is, if nicely said, SO understandable. We built a little home in the country, a glass house in which we watched deer and fox play in the hedgerow. It was a retirement thing we always wanted to do, and did and had 15+ years of complete joy. But I almost cannot bear to see it now, to be honest. Though I walk every granite outcropping through every oak and pine on all 6 acres of it; I know it to my soul. It's mine. But no longer mine, if you get my meaning. In the hands now of a Yosemite Park Ranger. He will get so much love of it. He sent a beautiful let I treasure about his kitties laying looking out all that glass on the warmed floors in front of the wood stove. That's good enough. Now we all move on.
Ana - that's very interesting and lovely that it worked out for both sides. I don't see any way that could possibly happen here, and honestly, I don't want it to. I have come away with a few new friendships through the selling process but that's another story. I will respond nicely, but discourage further contact. Honest and direct - I think I can do that!
nacy - You are right. I don't want to see photos of the changes that, inevitably, they will make. I don't need that. I have no problem ignoring requests or even blocking people on facebook - like those older military gentlemen who are widowed and write flowery phrases lol. I don't see a connection with the new owners being a good thing for me.
And if you ask me she might get a bit braggy, like we did this we did that , change things you don't wish to know. You want to keep the memories of your old house exactly the way it is.
Let the past be the past and keep your fond memories.
That's why I don't do Facebook, I would have a hard time ignoring a friend request, or unfriending someone.
I’ve been on the other side of this scenario. The couple who downsized stayed in the community and sometimes asked to bring family from overseas to see our house. (built it themselves - funky design) I cringed because I am (ahem) not known for my housekeeping. But she and her husband became our friends - like loving parents to us. Our kids referred to them as grandparents.
Having said that, I’m not sure I’d want to see someone else here in our beloved home. Be honest and direct.
Perhaps you could say that leaving the family homestead is difficult but it was necessary , and that you are glad she will be taking care of it , but you need to leave it behind you to adjust to downsizing . Wish her well .
I don't know where to put this, but feedback would be welcome.
The wife of the new owner of my old house have given me a friend request on facebook. Her page shows lots of pics of them outside the house with a sold sign. This is not something I want to see. That chapter is closed in my life and I want to move forward. Any thoughts?
Alva - I think a number of us are wondering about Eva. I'm sure she will update us at some point. Need will turn up again when/If she is ready.
Way - so sorry to hear about your sister. She's really having a hard time right now. You are getting loss after loss. (((((hugs)))
Llama - yes, indeed. Hope you and hub are doing ok, after that last episode of yours.
Happy to hear your house sale is settled and you are enjoying your new home !!
Thanks , yes we can not change MIL . Right now my mind is on my sister . My nephew ( her son) was just about to start touring AL for her and she fell and broke her hip the other night . She had surgery yesterday . She will be headed to rehab at some point .
One day at a time to see what happens . I’m driving out to see her on Sunday .
Good news on the home. Finally off your plate.
Worried about Evamar and always worry when I hear nothing.
At this point I am beyond worry about needhelp; if anyone EVER hears from her and knows she is OK I would appreciate knowing this. It is now way too long.
Well, it's done and dusted. The house is officially out of my hands and that is a great relief. I had mentioned that now the kids wouldn't have to deal with it, but the main reason for moving is that the condo is a better choice for me/us.
I like this style of living - enough room but not too much, people to get to know and helpful neighbours, but privacy if you want it. Underground parking. Fire in the fireplace without having to cut wood. Lower costs of living. Outside work done by someone else. We still have a view of trees and sounds of wildlife. A sense of security in the building...
These things are good as you age.
And we still have access to the cottage lot for growing things and to R's friends' farms. Love visiting them. I went the other day to B's farm and took photos and will go back. It's so peaceful. I feel blessed.
What's happening?
My brother in law, who also had Parkinson's, had very severe pain, often when lying down at night but also in the day time.