I told her 3 things : I thought their price was high, her kids should make the decision (get off the pot so to speak), and I wasn't thrilled that they didn't participate with Medicaid. I'm sorry but I'm trying to do the best for her and all of them and not knowing just what that may be?!
So sorry.
So, in the meantime, my daughter will be doing 24 7 in home care, not my choice, she has her own life and family to deal with. My husband doesn't do much for his mom, but he does get groceries (and it seems like we go through a bunch of them).
I know what needs to be done. Now, the people around just need to figure out what to do next.
Thank you again for everything! I'm sure this won't be the last time you all hear from me.
Where is your husband in all this? I don’t think you’ve ever mentioned him or if he’s any help with his mom at all. But you have mentioned his family is judgmental and critical of you. From what youve said, it IS up to you where MIL goes because it sounds like you’re the only one who is being proactive about anything that has to do with her. IMHO, if you, with all your other issues, say it’s time for her to go, you deserve the cooperation and support of your in-laws.
Only you and your daughter know when enough is enough. Only you can approach your husband and his family and tell them that. We can’t make up your mind for you. As long as you’re on the fence about this, your life won’t get any easier. We’re always here if you need us, but you’re the boss of you. No one else. Good luck and God bless!