Hi all!
Thought I'd check in and give you an update on Bev. Well Tim took his mom off of hospice. She wasn't responding to anything. No drinking, eating or taking pills. He took her to the ER. She was admitted. She has autoimmune hemolytic anemia. Rare but curable but not for Bev. Because of her age and already dealing with an autoimmune issue (SPS) the doctor said to take her home and make her comfortable. She is back on hospice care. I feel awful for Bev and Tim but I'm still leaving. Please say a prayer for Bev that when she's ready that she passes peacefully. Thank you
I will be leaving June 1st! I walk around the house singing "It's the final countdown" can't remember the band name off the top of my head. When I call my older sister who lives by me in my home state, I sing that to her and we laugh. It feels good to laugh!
I also pray Bev passes peacefully. She now tries to refuse medication, water and food. Gets combative when checking her sugar. She knows what's going on. While she was in the hospital, Tim always wanted to talk to doctors outside of the room. I always inched my way back into the room and the doctor followed my lead. I thought it important for Bev to know what is going on with herself. I don't believe I'm wrong for doing so. The relationship that Bev and I had is no longer. I will remember the good we had together. I will miss her.
Yes, needed a "solid" reason for walking away before I strangle Tim. Not easy dealing with him at this point as he asks my opinion then gets mad. So now I just say I don't know. Good bye toxicity!
Is this more about having a solid *reason* to say before steping back/stepping away?
You don't need to give a reason unless you want to.
"I can't help anymore" is valid.
So is "you will have to make other arrangements" (my new favourite statement, supplied by BarbBrooklyn).
For Bev, I hope she will pass peacefully. Don't worry about Tim. He didn't care that you injured yourself helping him and his mother the last two years. Time to focus on you.