I have POA over my grandmother but currently my mother has my grandmother in her care. She is refusing to put my grandmother into a pre arranged respite and care provision following the death of my Grandfather. She has also managed to influence my Grandmother to state she wants to live with my mother. When well my Grandmother and Grandfather (recently deceased) assigned me as POA because my mother is manipulative and ultimately after my nan's money. What should I do next, the social worker seems a little feeble. My nan has dementia and failing physical health. When well she had stated that she never wanted to live with my mum.
If Nan didn’t put her wishes not to live with your mother in writing, then it’s your word against your mother’s. It sounds like Mom has access to Nan’s accounts, and if you do, in fact, have POA, you will have to enlist the help of an attorney to keep Mom’s fingers out of Grandma’s money. It might not be a bad idea to consult with an attorney anyway to find out how to go about this if no one has legal POA.
If your grandmother
is well cared for
seems happy
states that she wants to stay where she is
this presents the social worker with a dilemma. You may have POA and you may have made sound arrangements. But is it in your grandmother's best interests to be moved against her (apparent) will?
The presumption would be against changing the environment of a person with significant dementia. So unless you can demonstrate that your grandmother will be *better* off after the move, taking the disruption into account, you might want to think again.
When did your grandfather pass away?