My dad is in end stages of Alz with Dementia. His nursing home closed down, so we found him a new one. First few weeks all was well. Now they are saying we need to pick him up now because he has hurt people. When we question facts change. We are certain they are not being truthful. They are threatening to send him to the ER and not letting him come back. They tried to send him to a psych ward, but they refused saying he has no behavior issues aside from dementia. He is fine and not combative when we are there (let me say, he does not know who we are). His home said one of our family members has to stay with him 24/7 and care for him or else they will send him to the ER. What can I do? Who can I call to stop this right now? We don't have the ability to care for him. I think this is because of his Medicare
Let this be their problem.
Let the state take on guardianship if they must and do not take on any guardianship if you are not already the POA.
You cannot manage this.
You will NEVER find him placement with the current history.
So next time they call you tell them exactly this:
"You do what you feel you must do for my Dad's well being; if he is sent to ER by ambulance and EMS, then let me know".
Keep this off your place. Social workers are paid to do placement. This isn't your job and it is beyond your skills.
I am so very sorry. This is the way now of aging in our country. We live too long. I say that at 82, and am ready to go before these losses rob me of everything. Again. I am so very sorry.
Doesn't that make more sense to you, as they are used to dealing with all kinds of different issues that those with broken brains and will better be able to handle him?
I would find him a nice memory care facility and then bring hospice on board if he is in end stages dementia, as hospice will keep him comfortable and pain free and they will also be extra sets of eyes on him for you.
Best wishes in finding the right place for your dad.
Is dad on Hospice? If so the Hospice Team may be able to find other placement for him. OR he may be admitted to the In patient Unit for "Symptom management". From there they may be able to adjust meds to appease the facility.
I do agree with Olddude..do you really want him someplace where the staff does not want him for whatever reason.
When you say this might be due to his Medicare do you mean Medicare or Medicaid? BIG difference.
they obviously can’t cope with someone attacking people but I’m sure he’s not the first and there must be other options
sounds like his doctor needs to provide medication
/get him
he checked out
Maybe the aggressive behaviour is a by product of some health issue he has
maybe he’s in pain somewhere
Between the doctor and care people they should be able to provide a solution for you - use them
Before my mother graduated from Hospice, they were really good about getting her anxiety/violence under control.