My mom is in the hospital ready for discharge ( which I disagree , already filed appealed it was denied. She has a collapsed lung and on iv antibiotics for Mrsa blood infection) she needs to go to a nursing home that offers long term care, the one the social worker found is 45 mins from me and the reviews are terrible, I don’t want her to go there I won’t be able to see her often. Do I have to accept this place?
* If they make arrangements or tell you where your mom 'should go,' ask the social worker WHY THERE?
* Hospital personnel shouldn't have any legal right to make these determinations, without first consulting with family. It is my understanding that you (or certainly the POA) makes these decisions.
* Some social workers may be very helpful. They should discuss the options with you / the family to come to a mutual decision - or the decision the family wants. They provide input based on what they know being in the field.
* In addition to writing us asking, you need to consult with:
1. The social worker. S/he 'may' believe s/he is helping you or doing you a favor setting all this up. Regardless of what they believe, they should consult with you / family before making any arrangements. They SHOULD go over all the alternatives with you / the family. This is the respectful way to proceed and some/many hospital personnel do not do this from my experience.
2. Contact the County on Aging; or if necessary
3. Consult an attorney specializing in elder law.
4. Get your POA documentation in order asap.
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