Mom is resistant to help. She fell last week as she was walking to the van that takes her to dialysis. Paramedics helped her up and determined she was not injured. At dialysis and again at home she lost control over her bowels and was confused and weak. She stayed that way for a couple of days. No precursors, this happens. I want to plan for her dialysis days because we go back to work and school after summer break. I've been home because of foot surgery and I'm back at work full time. I want a nurses aid to be here when she gets home to help her up the step to get into our house, fix her lunch and whatever else needs done.
She says she's fine and doesn't need help. Falling is normal and no big deal. It is a big deal! I'm worried that she is going to have to have an injury or another type of crisis to become willing to allow outside help.
Here's a short list of horrors: Bedpans, wheelchair, constant pain, never walking again, having to ask for every little thing that's out of reach, placement in a NH because with an unhealed fracture, she cannot be tended except by professionals. Try to scare the s**t out of her.
Good luck!