I have POA for a distant cousin. She has done the falling/rehab/respite care/home/ falling/hospital circuit since July 4. Last time she went home she fell within 4 days. I have convinced her to stay in AL for 30 days. She really can’t take care of herself, and swears she is going home January 3. No other family to take care of her and I am 4 hours away with a full time job. I swear if she goes home after all the hoops I have jumped through to get her settled in her AL room I will relinquish my POA. Any suggestions?
So to be perfectly clear, if you go home against medical advice, then I will be resigning as your POA and I will not be helping you or seeing you.
I hope that you decide to take care of yourself and remain in care. I will miss you if you decide otherwise.
Love your overwhelmed cousin.
Like said, push the doctor thing. Tell her Dr. says she needs 24/7 care which u cannot give. Her home is no longer safe.
You need to let her know that you'll be resigning as POA and that she will become a Ward of the State and that neither you nor she will have any say over where she is placed. It's worth a shot.
Blame the doctor. "The doctor says that you need to stay in a care center until you get stronger". "The doctor says that it's not safe for you to be at home by yourself right now". "The doctor has ordered full time care for you in the facility; going home is going against doctor's orders".
Become a broken record.
(((((hugs)))))))