They live in and house and had 9 cat a dog and a bird the house was a mess. Cat poop and pissed every where. Now the house is up for sale after they both ended up in the hosp. Dad has heart issues and mom has dementia. We get in big fights he hates every one in the family. We want to go to Alabama for the birth of a child and we are struggling to find someone to care for them. I work and we have a lady come in everyday for care for mom from 9-1pm and then my other half work 3or 4 hours a day. Dad does help with bills. Are bills have dbl. for caring for both so it does help. And now he is b*tching about that. It would be 6 7 thousand for mom to be in a home dad can not take care of my by him self.
Can they get some assistance to help care for your mom? Was dad a Veteran? Can they afford their own in home care? Would you be willing to go over a couple of hours a day and help them with meals and light cleaning? Is there any one else in the family that could pitch in?