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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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Your loved one may not require home care or assisted living services at this time. However, continue to monitor their condition for changes and consider occasional in-home care services for help as needed.
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Hi Juanita. Is your father at home? Or in a nursing home? If he's at home, is he under hospice care? Is he drinking his fluid by mouth? Each person has a different timeline on when they pass away once they stop taking in food/fluid. Some can last for weeks, others a few days. If he's at home, hospice can tell you more on this.
I'm trying to recall when mom had reached this stage and how long it took before she passed away. I knew that she had reached the final stages when she slept all night. Mom was the opposite of most people here. Mom slept all day, and laid awake all night. So, when I woke up one morning, and saw that she was still sleeping from lastnight, I knew she was at the end. She had stomach tube and only 1/4 of the small can of nutrition milk would go down. Her skin around her legs were wrapping tightly around her leg bones and creeping upward. I was shocked one morning as I was changing her gown, to suddenly see how sudden her shoulder blades had sunk in. I felt soooo guilty thinking that I was starving her (because her stomach no longer took as much fluid as before.) All I can say is... when mom started struggling to breath (like short panting sounds), I knew it was really close to the end. I texted all my siblings in the US mainland. Then we tried to get hospice service. Too much red tape involved when you have Medicare. Her doctor doesn't do home visits. The hospice won't come unless the doctor sees mom and then orders it. Mom was so close to the end, we decided not to subject her to a rough ambulance ride to/from the clinic. So we contacted APS (adult protective service) if they can intervene with the clinic to have someone come over and just look at mom. 9 days later, mom passed away in her sleep....without hospice service.
FYI, I only truly knew that mom was in the end stage when I saw all these changes to mom and came on here to Agingcare and relayed what I'm seeing. Several people here told me that my mom was really close to the end. Inside, I was not really accepting it even though my eyes saw the signs. I needed people here to tell me what I refused to accept. I wish I could be more of help to you. I just remember panicking at that time, and busy trying to deny it. {{hugs}}
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I'm trying to recall when mom had reached this stage and how long it took before she passed away. I knew that she had reached the final stages when she slept all night. Mom was the opposite of most people here. Mom slept all day, and laid awake all night. So, when I woke up one morning, and saw that she was still sleeping from lastnight, I knew she was at the end. She had stomach tube and only 1/4 of the small can of nutrition milk would go down. Her skin around her legs were wrapping tightly around her leg bones and creeping upward. I was shocked one morning as I was changing her gown, to suddenly see how sudden her shoulder blades had sunk in. I felt soooo guilty thinking that I was starving her (because her stomach no longer took as much fluid as before.) All I can say is... when mom started struggling to breath (like short panting sounds), I knew it was really close to the end. I texted all my siblings in the US mainland. Then we tried to get hospice service. Too much red tape involved when you have Medicare. Her doctor doesn't do home visits. The hospice won't come unless the doctor sees mom and then orders it. Mom was so close to the end, we decided not to subject her to a rough ambulance ride to/from the clinic. So we contacted APS (adult protective service) if they can intervene with the clinic to have someone come over and just look at mom. 9 days later, mom passed away in her sleep....without hospice service.
FYI, I only truly knew that mom was in the end stage when I saw all these changes to mom and came on here to Agingcare and relayed what I'm seeing. Several people here told me that my mom was really close to the end. Inside, I was not really accepting it even though my eyes saw the signs. I needed people here to tell me what I refused to accept. I wish I could be more of help to you. I just remember panicking at that time, and busy trying to deny it. {{hugs}}