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So now in years 26 of taking care of aging parent/parents. Mom is now in stage 7a imo of dementia. High pitched shrieking, looking at her food, able to walk a few feet, thats about it. Its constant problems, how do we solve them - i was done several years ago. When does God take pity on the caregivers? How much longer can this go on?
God took pity on caregivers from the very start, by giving them good sense and the ability to protect themselves from decades of abusing their bodies and minds by deciding to place loved ones in managed care. And if that's not an option, for WHATEVER reason, He gives us the wisdom to change the things we're capable of changing. For example, you're not capable of changing sisters mind but you ARE capable of saying enough, and removing yourself from the insanity.
Depends on how you look at this. If it were me, I'd look at the situation as God telling me to leave the caregiving nightmare now and save the body and mind He gave you.
If you ask “when does God take pity on the caregivers”, you are assuming that God has no pity and is punishing you now. That is not what most Christians assume. God gives you the power to make reasonable choices for everyone involved. God does not speak through your sister.
Not meaning to be flippant, but God helps those who help themselves. I know you've written in the past about your sister guilt-tripping you and demanding that you help with her obsessive need to keep your mother alive. Isn't your mother about 100 now? Please just extricate yourself. Tell your sister that you are done, you are ready to enjoy your retirement with your husband, and that she can place you mother in memory care or a SNF, or hire the extra help to replace you at her own expense. Enough is enough. Seriously. You deserve so much better than this.
It ends when you say once and for all that enough is enough, and that you matter too in this situation. Time for mom to go into a facility and dad too if he's still alive, so you can get back to just being their loving daughter and not their burned out, overwhelmed and exhausted caregiver. And if money is an issue, you can apply for Medicaid for your parents. I wish you well in finally making yourself a priority and stopping the nonsense of this caregiving that will kill you before it does your mom.
God has nothing to do with it. We caregivers must take care of ourselves! Your mom’s severe symptoms indicate that she needs professional care in a facility. My husband is the exact same stage as your mom, and I am grateful everyday for his fine care at a memory care facility.
Please visit some and begin planning for mom to move into one. She’s way beyond your ability to care for her properly. Plus you need to get your own life! You matter too.
This can end for you to some degree by placing Mom in a care facility . You have God given power to help yourself , by giving up the hands on caregiving .
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
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Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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Depends on how you look at this. If it were me, I'd look at the situation as God telling me to leave the caregiving nightmare now and save the body and mind He gave you.
Time for mom to go into a facility and dad too if he's still alive, so you can get back to just being their loving daughter and not their burned out, overwhelmed and exhausted caregiver.
And if money is an issue, you can apply for Medicaid for your parents.
I wish you well in finally making yourself a priority and stopping the nonsense of this caregiving that will kill you before it does your mom.
Please visit some and begin planning for mom to move into one. She’s way beyond your ability to care for her properly. Plus you need to get your own life! You matter too.