Jocelyne Asked July 2015
How can we best encourage our long-distance siblings to call or write their Mom. Any tricks up someone's sleeve?
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We are in the Upper Peninsula of Michigan. I have one bro in Charlotte area of NC, one bro in Montgomery area of AL, and one sister in Monterey, CA.
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Some people just don't feel comfortable calling an older relative - they just don't know what to say or what to talk about, especially if the elder person isn't very talkative.
You could update the siblings by e-mail with descriptions of activities you and your mother have been doing, health issues, etc. so the siblings have something to discuss. Give them clues so they have an idea what's going on.
If they're not the calling kind, ask them to send cards. For someone who's older, those cards can mean a lot. Letters or brief notes can be included describing recent activities, plans, family life, etc. Think of the holiday letters people often send at Christmas - full of reports on activities, plans, trips, vacations, etc.
When my father was in rehab for the first time, a close relative brought down a foam board, like a poster board, with 2 sided tape. I brought in all the cards received at home, we taped them to the poster board, and kept it in his room.
Visitors were surprised and interested, wanting to read the cards themselves. Staff also took quick looks at the cards - the card board attracted a lot of attention and increased the level of staff interaction.
If you can convince your siblings to send cards, you could create a board for your mother, or a scrapbook, that she can peruse when she feels the need for family companionship.
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To tell the truth, when I hear my brothers' families talk about how they're going on vacations, amusement parks, camping, etc., like they think it's all so interesting, I really want to ask them if they realize how trivial they sound. Goodness! They're senior citizens.
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