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Your doctor has said to have the surgery sooner...not later.
Please don't put it off. It will help Noone if your knee gives out at the airport or your parents home 3000 miles from your home!

I am shocked by those saying to delay it against your doctor's advice!

It is not smart advice or will it help your parents if it causes a health emergency of your own!

I am in your boat. It can feel bad to be so far. My mom won't move to west coast she loves new England! But I love the West and my home and my family here. I make certain she has good care. Family on the ground there support but not overwhelmed .
Mare that kind of plan.
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Mom should be on Hospice, which Medicare will pay for. That will lessen the load on your brother a bit..With Hospice, the person has to be homebound and someone needs to be with them. If your dad is still of sound mind and fairly good health, that should meet that requirement unless he is a fall risk. Tell your aunt to get her nose out of your family business. If shes so concefned, perhaps she can help. Schedule your knee surgery ASAP so you can rehab while its still fairly nice out doors. If wait much longer, everyone is trying to take advantage of their met deductibles for this year and elective surgery schedules fill up really fast. You need to take care of yourself too so you can be there to maybe help with your dad down the road ....Best wishes to you. We all have so much to,deal with and juggle !
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Good Afternoon,

I am a firm believer in "first hand information" rather than the telephone tree.
I recommend calling up your brother directly or better still, Skype. Deal with him
directly.

Tell him your scenario about your knee. Ask him flat out, what can I do for you and "our" parents from the West Coast? Do you need $$$? Do you need a cleaning person? Do you need grocery delivery? Do you need some gas cards?
Can I send you a check? That's all people really want. They want to be heard and supported.

I'm the "Aunt" with the 10 nieces and nephews. There's not enough minutes in our family to iron everything out. "Go to the source" your brother and deal directly and this way here he knows you have his back. I'm the Aunt who said, remember all of the Polly Flinders dresses, basketball camp, Disney World, designer clothes, porcelain dolls, theater, swim lessons, etc. You get it. I threw everything in their face. Remember the time I......yada, yada, yada. I'm trying to make everyone laugh here.

Then one day I had an "aha moment". I said stay focused, say things once, whatever they want to do is up them. They are adults. Build your network and stay off the phone.

I feel better now...I hope you do too.
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