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There is an old song 'the old grey mare ... she ain't what she used to be...' - however 'mare' can also be 'mere' which is French for mother - this was a favourite of my mom's & I always looked back on it when her dementia took over because my 'old grey mere' really wasn't what she used to be -

I believe that we pre-mourn our loved ones with dementia - it is the opposite of seeing when a child grows up & reaches each milestone whereas with dementia it is the removal of those same milestones that we mourn - when they need depends, when they need help to dress, when they need help to eat .... all are reverse milestones & we mourn that loss with each one repeatedly

I found it good to look at old pix of her when she was vibrant not as she was towards the end of her life - the gleam in her eye when she was 21 or the smile when she finally graduated university at 47 are all the pix you want to be in your mind's eye not the sickly person who needed help 24/7 - you will adjust if you can go beyond her recent time to her 'best' time for her - good luck in the future & a hug for when you need it
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