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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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Your loved one may not require home care or assisted living services at this time. However, continue to monitor their condition for changes and consider occasional in-home care services for help as needed.
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My mom lives with me. I have cared for her 24/7 for six years. I think she is approaching the end. I want to enjoy my time with her, but I worry so much about what is coming that I feel sad and depressed.
I personally don’t believe there’s such a thing as preparing for death. It takes the wind out of us when it comes. It’s also an inevitable part of life with no escape. My mom has been gone a long time now and I still miss her daily. I do now think of her with more smiles than tears as memories bring good thoughts instead of pain. Worry is a useless emotion, never accomplishes anything, just a trap to keep us from moving in any direction. Hold mom’s hand and reassure her of your love and care. Reminisce about good times, play music you both enjoy, read to her. Hopefully you have help from hospice and will avail yourself of their chaplain services. I wish you both much peace
Therapy or counseling could help. Hospice may offer options for this for you.
What Is it you worry most about? Her losing more abilities? Her suffering? Her dying? The afterlife? Whether you have done a good job or the right thing? You being without her and losing the main person you have centered your life on these past many years? These are questions to consider with a therapist or counselor.
I’m so sorry you are going through this. Losing a Mother is one of the hardest things to go through. But I agree with funkygrandma59. Hospice is a wonderful resource, a Medicare benefit that many people fail to access. You could both benefit from the support and services that hospice provides. I believe that we pass to a state of glorious existence with The Creator when our bodies die. Death is not the end. You will certainly miss her but focus on being with her now, while you can. Worrying about what’s to come is stealing precious time and energy from the present. May you find peace and comfort during this difficult time.
If you consider death as the "worst is yet to come" then yes the worst is yet to come. But for people that have suffered with any illness for any period of time, death is actually a relief. And it can also be a relief for those of us that have chosen to care for our loved ones for years, as it most certainly takes its toll on us as well. Definitely bring the hospice of your choice on board now, so your mom can die as pain free and comfortable as possible, and just enjoy whatever time you may have left with your mom. And by all means make sure that you leave nothing left unsaid. And it may be time to talk to your doctor about going on an anti-depressant to help with your depression.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
What Is it you worry most about? Her losing more abilities? Her suffering? Her dying? The afterlife? Whether you have done a good job or the right thing? You being without her and losing the main person you have centered your life on these past many years? These are questions to consider with a therapist or counselor.
May you find peace and comfort during this difficult time.
But for people that have suffered with any illness for any period of time, death is actually a relief. And it can also be a relief for those of us that have chosen to care for our loved ones for years, as it most certainly takes its toll on us as well.
Definitely bring the hospice of your choice on board now, so your mom can die as pain free and comfortable as possible, and just enjoy whatever time you may have left with your mom. And by all means make sure that you leave nothing left unsaid.
And it may be time to talk to your doctor about going on an anti-depressant to help with your depression.
Best of luck with a difficult situation.