My hubs is 85 and in briefs full time. I've probably tried 20-30 different briefs, but still have leakage. Day time I can try to get him to a bathroom, but night time everything is soaked. He has a hospital bed and I cover with Mainstay sheets, plus a long washable pad running from side-to-side over the mattress and then a shorter pad on top of that, running lengthwise. He sweats like crazy and his briefs leak from the side; often even the sheet is wet. I feel like I'm running a laundry company and it's miserable for him. Any suggestions?
We've tried a lot of briefs -- I've been getting Tranquility OverNight Maximum Absorbency Underwear, XXL-Plus, 12 Ct from Jet.com. They're really good quality. Walmart has them too, through their app.
What kind of brief you get depends on how much help they can give you when you're cleaning up. I don't like the "tab" kind. The ones I mention above are briefs.
I also use the bed pads that Walmart sells -- 30 for $15.00, 30 x 36. I've been really happy with those, too.
I noticed 2 things that would occur.
1. laying down the urine would flow between "skin folds" so the absorbent part of the brief would not capture the urine before it ran out the side of the tab brief.
2. He would, as I fondly (no pun intended) put it, "re-position" himself so he was pointing anywhere but towards the absorbent portion of the brief.
Nothing I did would change these two facts so I just resigned myself to doing loads of wash. As well as sometimes washing the floor as well.
As he declined I was able to apply a condom catheter that he did not try to remove. But had I tried that previously he would have pulled it off resulting in possible skin abrasions.
If possible when you get him into bed do not put anything on him other than the briefs. This should make it easier to change him, he will be less wet and you will have less laundry. If he seems to get chilled put an extra sheet or lightweight blanket on him. A twin extra long "polar fleece" blanket is great light weight, warm but it breathes and it washes and dries fast. I has 2 or 3 of them for the bed and to use as a throw for him.
By the way have you ever tried wearing one of the briefs? either the tab type or the pull up? They keep you pretty warm and sweaty so if he is hot to begin with the incontinence products make you warmer.
Also, the mercedes of diapers i found to be an italian brand called Panolini. We have no more leaks even if my mom drinks before bed.
If part of the problem is that you're not able to make the pads/briefs fit comfortably, then I'd see if you can get someone actually to show you. Of course there are loads of videos and how-to's online, but nothing beats a live demonstration on the person you're actually helping. There are such things as specialist continence care nurses; don't know if your doctor might be able to put you in touch with one?
I have a friend who did 20 years of adult foster care so I can ask her. He just gets really upset with me when I have other people help him with shower or toilet problems (thinks I enjoy humiliating him) so I have hesitated to talk to her about it. Maybe he'll just have to live with it. 5 years is long enough to fight this battle alone.
Good luck😀
If that is the case, I wonder about the mattress- does it have any type of synthetic cover on or around it?
My own experience by way of menopause and really awful night sweats - not to mention hot flashes - plus having a disabled son who is in Depends full time and he having gone through his sweaty teenage years - is that any type of plastic or synthetic material around the mattress or in the way of a mattress protector- would cause us both to sweat all the more. Wow. Massive run-on sentence so I hope it made sense. Even if the plastic type material was a layer or two away from the body via a sheet.
I suppose it is the complete inability of these materials that protect the mattress to breath - that causes the excessive sweating.
I was able to find a waterproof mattress protector that solved that problem. These mattress protectors are made with a cotton terry cloth on the front side and Gor-Tex on the back. While Gor-Tex is a synthetic fiber, it is revolutionary in that it allows moisture to pass out but not to penetrate in. Totally took the sportswear industry to a whole new level as Gor-Tex is also very light weight.
I love these mattress protectors so much I have two for every bed in the house. They have never once failed when my son has had an accident at night - which, in spite of him being in a heavy duty overnight Depends - they ALWAYS leak resulting in totally soaked bedding - and the mattress remaining dry.
I found them at a mattress store called Sleep Train in my state - but I believe they go by another name now. If you’re interested you could probably google a couple keywords and get results for where you can buy them. I will warn you - they are pretty expensive- at least in comparison to typical mattress protectors. But worth every penny.
A side benefit - these mattress protectors do not make any of that awful crackling noises that plastic backed protectors make when you move around in bed.
So - sorry about the long post if this is not of any interest to you and the actual issue you asked about. I just had to respond as I know how miserable being a sweaty sleeper can be.
I do have some feedback regarding your actual question and will post it tomorrow. It’s after midnight now and I need to hit my cool and quiet bed.
Is the whole pad soaked through and leaking, or are there dry areas but there's still been a leak? - is one way to check this point.
If the whole pad is soaked through, sodden and heavy, and there's still been a leak, and you don't have an option to upgrade to a pad with higher capacity (they usually say how much liquid they can hold on the label somewhere), then I'd get advice on how to manage his intake and output. Capacity goes up to 1500mls or more and that's a heck of a lot of output.
What's the excessive sweating about, has that been investigated?