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HOW do I get my MIL to leave our home? She has been windowed for 10 years and in that time ruined her own house. A storm nearly 2 years ago did considerable damage and she took it upon herself to move in with us. No timeline was ever discussed, and its looking more and more, like her plan is to stay forever. She won't discuss anything about her house with us and avoids us most of the time. My spouse has 2 siblings who don't help with anything, one of which she babysits for. Unless we leave the house, there are no free moments without her. I'm OVER it!

First I have to correct you when you say that your MIL "took it upon herself" to move in with you. You know that's not true as you or your husband had to agree that she do so, as NO ONE can just move themselves into someone else's house without some kind of permission(unless they're a squatter that is).
So now it's time for you to not only have a come to Jesus meeting with your husband, but also your MIL as to the timeline that she MUST be out of your house.
And if hubby isn't on the same page as you then it may be time for just you to move out and let he and his mother live happily ever after.
Sadly it may come down to that. And if that's the case then this is more of a marriage issue than it is a MIL issue.
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Reply to funkygrandma59
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Hubby has the power here and needs to better consider you, along with the peace of his own home. If he won’t act, take a nice vacation at his expense
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You tell your husband that this is your home as well as his, and that his mother has to leave. Together you come up with a timetable for her departure, say two weeks or 30 days or at most 60 days. Then together you go to her and tell her she needs to make other arrangements.

What are her income and finances? Can her damaged house be sold, either as a fixer-upper for do-it-yourselfers, or for the land? Did she receive insurance money for the home, which she didn't spend on it? Is she able-bodied enough to get a job? If she says she can't get a job because she needs to babysit, tell the the sibling can pay her for the babysitting. Any excuse can be answered.

Don't just sit back and tolerate this. Two years has been very generous, and now enough is enough! You're home should be a refuge, not the place of irritation and annoyance. Keep us posted on how things go.
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You tell your husband to tell his mother she has to find another place to live , AKA an apartment if she is not returning to her own home .

If your husband won’t do that , then you tell him you can’t stay the way things are and leave and get an apartment by yourself . That will give your husband a wake up call .
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