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I’m very sorry for your loss. My mom just died on March 3. I was her caregiver and we had a complicated relationship to say the least. Society doesn’t give us any time to grieve. Once I returned to work after a week everyone just expected me to function normally as if nothing happened. I haven’t even recovered physically from the exhaustion of caregiving, and at the same time people are descending upon mom’s house wanting things (including the house itself ). Not so long ago in our history families were given a mourning period. Black wreaths or buntings were placed on the door to keep people from knocking, and widows were excused from social events for a year. Not so anymore. I was actually asked if I would be hosting Easter at my house.
So sorry for the loss of your father. I know how difficult it is to cope when you lost a loved one. Try your best to not focus on the sadness of your father’s death but place your focus on the happier times you have had with him when he was alive. Look at pictures of him that you both shared during those happy times. The heartbreak of losing your father will be with you for a while, but time will eventually lessen the heartbreak of losing your father when you focus on the happier times spent with him. If your thoughts of losing your father get overwhelming, you should seek counseling.
Your world is spinning right now. Give yourself time, patience, and mercy. The grief is so intense right now, you’re pretty much one big raw nerve. If all you can do today is brush your teeth, it’s okay.
I’m sorry for the loss of your beloved father. I still miss mine, but the gift of some time has made me able to think of him with more smiles than tears. This is a very fresh wound for you, give yourself some grace and time to process it all. Know that the groups of GriefShare meet all over and have been a big help to so many. I wish you healing and peace
I am so very sorry for your loss. You are in the very beginning stages of grief. Try, while you mourn this loss, also to celebrate a long life and the special bond you shared. I think you will find that he isn't gone from you. Caregiving is such tough work; because it is so hard the bond becomes very tight. I am certain you miss him. Try to seek out grieving and grief support groups, even if you must start online somewhere such as FB.
Sorry for your loss, gin. It will take time to fill your day with the emptiness that your dad's passing, has left. Be kind to yourself, give yourself time to grieve.
My sincere condolences for the loss of your father.
Take time to grieve for him. He was a significant person in your life. Yes, he is gone from this physical world but he will continue to live in your heart forever.
I lost my dad in 2002 and I still miss him. Just because someone dies doesn’t mean that we stop loving them.
It may sound silly but I tell my father happy birthday every year on his birthday. Why? Because I will always remember him. I think of him in the same way as when he was alive.
So, don’t deny your feelings. Don’t feel as if you have to immediately get over this pain. The sting of death does ease with time and you will smile when you remember the beautiful times that you had with your dad.
If you begin to feel like you aren’t able to move forward due to your grief, then join a grief support group or speak with a grief counselor.
Everyone goes through the grieving process in their own way.
You were a blessing in your father’s life and it sounds like you were blessed to have him as your dad. Cherish your memories.
Do you "miss taking care of him" or him? I only ask, because I was my late husbands caregiver for many years, and after he died, I did NOT miss taking care of him, but I did miss him, and still do. Your dad just died a little over 2 weeks ago, and it will take time to readjust to your new way of living without him. So be kind to yourself, seek out grief counseling if you need it, and find ways to honor him with what you choose to do going forward. God bless you.
Condolences. Grief is a multi-faceted beast to manage. Support groups, journaling, and one's belief system can all help with the process. And your grief can be tempered with the knowledge that you did your best by him.
There's a nice brochure, When Someone You Love Dies, that offers practical advice drawn from professional grief counselors and comfort from the Scriptures. There are two sections especially that might be helpful - Is It Normal to Feel This Way? and How Can I Live With My Grief? Get the PDF at https://www.jw.org/finder?wtlocale=E&pub=we&srcid=share
Give yourself time and lots of self-care while you deal with this major upheaval in your life. You'll be okay.
Sorry for the Loss Of your Dad it takes awhile to recover , there are various stages of grief and I think it is Much harder on the primary caregiver . Find a grief counselor or someone you can talk to . Since it is Easter buy some flowers and Light a candle . Life gets better . Takes sometime to heal .
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Society doesn’t give us any time to grieve. Once I returned to work after a week everyone just expected me to function normally as if nothing happened. I haven’t even recovered physically from the exhaustion of caregiving, and at the same time people are descending upon mom’s house wanting things (including the house itself ).
Not so long ago in our history families were given a mourning period. Black wreaths or buntings were placed on the door to keep people from knocking, and widows were excused from social events for a year. Not so anymore. I was actually asked if I would be hosting Easter at my house.
Wishing you peace during this difficult time.
Your world is spinning right now. Give yourself time, patience, and mercy. The grief is so intense right now, you’re pretty much one big raw nerve.
If all you can do today is brush your teeth, it’s okay.
You are in the very beginning stages of grief.
Try, while you mourn this loss, also to celebrate a long life and the special bond you shared. I think you will find that he isn't gone from you.
Caregiving is such tough work; because it is so hard the bond becomes very tight. I am certain you miss him. Try to seek out grieving and grief support groups, even if you must start online somewhere such as FB.
Be kind to yourself, give yourself time to grieve.
Take time to grieve for him. He was a significant person in your life. Yes, he is gone from this physical world but he will continue to live in your heart forever.
I lost my dad in 2002 and I still miss him. Just because someone dies doesn’t mean that we stop loving them.
It may sound silly but I tell my father happy birthday every year on his birthday. Why? Because I will always remember him. I think of him in the same way as when he was alive.
So, don’t deny your feelings. Don’t feel as if you have to immediately get over this pain. The sting of death does ease with time and you will smile when you remember the beautiful times that you had with your dad.
If you begin to feel like you aren’t able to move forward due to your grief, then join a grief support group or speak with a grief counselor.
Everyone goes through the grieving process in their own way.
You were a blessing in your father’s life and it sounds like you were blessed to have him as your dad. Cherish your memories.
Sending a bazillion hugs your way.
Your dad just died a little over 2 weeks ago, and it will take time to readjust to your new way of living without him.
So be kind to yourself, seek out grief counseling if you need it, and find ways to honor him with what you choose to do going forward.
God bless you.
There's a nice brochure, When Someone You Love Dies, that offers practical advice drawn from professional grief counselors and comfort from the Scriptures. There are two sections especially that might be helpful - Is It Normal to Feel This Way? and How Can I Live With My Grief?
Get the PDF at https://www.jw.org/finder?wtlocale=E&pub=we&srcid=share
Give yourself time and lots of self-care while you deal with this major upheaval in your life. You'll be okay.