This was suggested by an E.R. doctor. My mom is stage 6 and is losing the capacity to make rationale decisions. She goes to the E.R. unnecessarily.
I spoke to the Physicians Assistant and she said she'd sign anything but she's never heard of such a thing. We already have instructions such as no feeding tube, do not resuscitate etc.
What I'm trying to accomplish is decisions about going to a hospital get made by her doctor and her two children, of which i'm one.
If anyone has a template , I'm interested
To clarify, the ER doc suggested that a cognitively incapacitated person should be the one to decide about her going to the ER or not?
Are you her MPoA?
Does your Mom live at home or at a facility?
Is she calling 911? Or are you (or the facility) taking her?
If she's calling 911 herself, then she needs to not have a phone or give her a phone where you control who she calls and when (like a RAZ Mobility phone).
If it's a facility, they need to be told to call you first (if you are the MPoA).
Whoever is taking her needs to stop taking her. At stage 6 it seems the PoA would be activated. More info would be helpful.
May I suggest Hospice?
With Hospice you will forego the Hospital and further treatments, trips to the ER.
That is not to say Hospice will not treat mom if she needs treatment for an infection. what it means is that she will most likely not have to go to the ER as Hospice can run tests if necessary. And they will treat when necessary.
(they will not do curative treatments for the condition that makes mom Hospice eligible.)
A Nurse will see her at least 1 time a week, a CNA will give her a bath, shower or Bed Bath 2 to 3 times a week and the CNA will order all personal supplies and they will be delivered. The Nurse will order all Medical Supplies and they also will be delivered.
A POLST (known by other names in some States) does spell out the types of treatments that you will allow. It can limit IV's, It can limit Tube feeding / nutrition, It can limit CPR But it already sounds like that is already in place.
So the option of Hospice sounds like it would be what you would want.