This is truly nerve racking to me. She acts totally helpless. She is 79 and always says she's 90. I tell her that she's not 90 and she needs to stop saying that. Because that's probably why she's seeming helpless.
Oh and don't let her get around someone else, she really acts helpless then like she can barely walk so that they can jump to her tune.
I know my Mom and she plays on people and it's extremely irritating to me. She's not going to break my back by leaning on me, when she has her walker, etc. She's always been a very needy person and now it's really showing.
If she has always "used" people, that is another matter, but it also could be a sign of dementia. Don't let her use you, but get her diagnosed and if she needs them, on meds. It may be easier for you both.
Carol
She'll be 80 in September and I am going to plan an 80th Birthday Surprise party for her.
situation (as she has probably done in the past) then I suggest that you speak to a professional about how to interact with her. A social worker, support group for caregivers, Alzheimer's Assoc. all have learned how caregivers can manage these behaviors in a positive way for both of you. Linda
Urinary tract infections in the elderly are a common culprit for sudden behavioral changes, but usually don't involve stuttering.
She's been tested for dementia and does have it and a touch of alzheimer. She's on medication, Aricept. I'll have the doctor check into the studdering when she goes back to him the end of the month.
I am the only one that has ever given her quality care, and I feel like all I am good for to her is to change her bowel (colostomy) bag, which has truly humbled me as that's no joke. I am the pooper scooper and that certainly makes me feel a little low.