She is well able to pay this amount and would be paying over $5000 a month for assisted living if our home was not available. My wife and I are both retired and live on fixed income, and it helps out tremendously. She thinks we are taking advantage. Would appreciate other opinions.
I know if my parents were to move in with me, they would volunteer to pay for their care, down to the last penny. The reason I know this is that no matter how small an item I buy for them using my own money, they will quickly repay me, even if I say no.... but that's my parents, I don't expect all parents to do the same.
During my mother's general 'age-related decline' in her 80s I didn't feel comfortable asking for monitary compensation for simple tasks of doctor appts., meds mgmt., shopping. By doing those things - my mother was able to make short, close trips for herself. It kept her more active & alert. After her first stroke, the tasks became 24/7. That's when it became problematic.
Since she feels the amount is too high, she must not feel that she needs that much 'care'. With the information provided, my questions would be; Does she even think she needs care? If she thinks $2K/mo is too high, what does she think is fair?
Instead of charging her r&b she helps with the bills and pays for groceries on occasion. My brother, from several states away, is more than OK with that. Between her SS, pension and annuity checks she is OK and happy. Had she gone into a ASL or NH she would have broke by now. There is nothing wrong and accepting financial help from a disabled parent if they can afford it. All family members know she is being taken care of and is loved.