I have noticed many stories on this site carry the theme of an emotionally blackmailing mothers. The physical and mental health, the social/marital life, and financial stability of their caregivers, mainly daughters, are being destroyed by such verbal and emotional abuse. Is this a generational problem or unique situations that drive so many to this site looking for help and validation plus a safe place to vent?
It is so stressful and difficult to deal with. I just wanted you to know I truly do know what you are going through and I send you hugs across the miles. Take care.
i fail to see the difference between mom and the birds game. they both wanted to make old beard clip cuss. they craved it. i spect it was pretty humorous from their perspectives. ( b**ches !! )
But as I've been told several times now, if you're lucky enough not to know what it's like to have that kind of mother you can't really understand how much power emotional blackmailers can wield. Clearly, it's less painful for the blackmailee to give in to the blackmailer's demands than to tell her where to go, and I suppose it's a lifelong, self-feeding habit. It's also a form of bullying and wants stamping on firmly wherever possible - but that's just my two penn'orth.
As I mentioned, there are other reasons, of course. But this is one I've witnessed.
Thanks again for your comment.
Carol
I believe it can be any one or a combination of the above. Sometimes, it's because the mother never had much of a life outside of her children. Sometimes, it stems from fear because of failing physical and/or mental health. Sometimes it's a personality issue. Whatever the reason, the only way out the caregiver has is to not fall victim to the blackmail. Detaching from this type of treatment can be extremely difficult, and sometimes counseling is necessary. However, if the caregiver can't detach to some degree, there's no way to break the cycle. That being said, we are our parents' children and it's difficult to completely detach from the way they treat us.
Take care,
Carol