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Yes, it is really soon being four days in... At least he is not demanding to leave or trying to leave. You are right, there are very few men in these facilities because statistically they are outlived by the women by quite a few years. Your dad might find a lady friend to watch tv with or have lunch with.

My mom didn't have any hobbies and was not very social. We had the same issue until she met a male companion. In the beginning it really upset the mans family that he was spending time with my mom and for some reason he thought we were after his dads money. I had to call the mans family to assure them we were not after his money and that at this stage in life we were lucky that our parents found someone to spend time with. It was all very innocent..they would watch tv and dine together... sometimes hold hands. I would pick them both up and take them for car rides and icecream. I would bring the man to our house for holidays because he did not want to go to his sons...apparentlyt they didn't get along. He became part of the family. This went on for at least 5 years. He passed and my mom declined even more and is now in her third memory care facility. How I wish my mom still had her friend... She is too far along to befriend someone new. Mom is in late stage now...

So I guess my advice is to not limit your expectations to him meeting a male companion. Hope for a nice woman that he can sit with. He is going to have to go to the dining room for a chance encounter to happen. You should join him at a large table of other residents for lunch or coffee to get him comfortable with them. Then hopefully he will begin to join them without you. That's what I did with my mom.
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I didn't read any of the responses but what I suggested when my daddy was in a facility, I asked the activities director to put him in charge of something... get out the papers for the bingo game, distribute the pencils, pick up the papers. Maybe your dad can water the plants, straighten the magazines etc. Blessings
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Rebecca66012291 Feb 28, 2024
Oh that's a great idea. My dad likes to think he's helping.
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