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My dad recently was in the hospital and required follow up appointments that he missed. My dad has been an alcoholic my entire life and isn't well. I'm his only daughter. Only living relative. Any advice?
I am with the others on this. Who is this person? What rights do they have? Why are you being blocked from communicating with him? Do you live far away? Are there strict Covid restrictions? Some areas are easing up a little. Others aren’t.
As everyone else has posted, get APS involved. Do you think it was something minor like problems with his phone?
I am so sorry that you are experiencing this. I can see how concerned that you are and I understand why.
No matter what your dad has done in the past or doing now, you still want answers. I read your profile and it’s sad. I am sorry. You have a kind heart.
After you get your answers then you can make further decisions as to what to do regarding the future.
Best wishes to you and your family. For what it’s worth, I understand I grew up with addiction in my family as well, not my parents but a sibling. It’s tough. You had it worse, with your situation dealing with a parent and stepmom.
Apparently there is a Wife? Is she the caregiver? She would be the closest living relative, if she is there, albeit not a blood relative. Certainly call APS in your area is you are worried for your father's safety.
GH, it sounds like your stepmom is the caregiver that you are referring to, is that correct?
Unfortunately she would be considered next of kin by the law, hospitals and doctors also acknowledge that the spouse is the responsible party.
Your dad has made a lifetime of bad choices, he is now dealing with the consequences of those choices. You can not get sucked in to his insanity. He has to want to change and it sounds like he doesn't want to, so love him from afar, send a letter asking for contact information, send the police for a welfare check, but please do not become his guardian. He will send you on a merry chase and you will be responsible as the guardian. You accept a fiduciary responsibility when you agree to be a guardian and it is difficult under the best circumstances, having a step family involved is sure to cause you grief. He is exactly where he wants to be, don't forget that.
Who is the caregiver blocking calls? Is this person hired? And if so, by whom? If the individual also cancelled cell service, and your father doesn't have a land line, this would be unacceptable b/c your father would have no way of calling for emergency help.
This caregiver needs to "hit the road" and a reliable and conscientious one located.
Your profile states:
"They over the years have taken advantage of my father and him being uneducated and poor and an alcoholic to the point of no return. I don't know what to do. They take his check spend it on drugs and my dad no longer has a phone to where I can call and check on him. I have been advised to look into being an overseer over him. "
Could you elaborate on how these individuals are predators and dominating your father's life? Have the police ever been involved? Have you contacted APS or other invention type agency to become involved?
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
As everyone else has posted, get APS involved. Do you think it was something minor like problems with his phone?
I am so sorry that you are experiencing this. I can see how concerned that you are and I understand why.
No matter what your dad has done in the past or doing now, you still want answers. I read your profile and it’s sad. I am sorry. You have a kind heart.
After you get your answers then you can make further decisions as to what to do regarding the future.
Best wishes to you and your family. For what it’s worth, I understand I grew up with addiction in my family as well, not my parents but a sibling. It’s tough. You had it worse, with your situation dealing with a parent and stepmom.
Unfortunately she would be considered next of kin by the law, hospitals and doctors also acknowledge that the spouse is the responsible party.
Your dad has made a lifetime of bad choices, he is now dealing with the consequences of those choices. You can not get sucked in to his insanity. He has to want to change and it sounds like he doesn't want to, so love him from afar, send a letter asking for contact information, send the police for a welfare check, but please do not become his guardian. He will send you on a merry chase and you will be responsible as the guardian. You accept a fiduciary responsibility when you agree to be a guardian and it is difficult under the best circumstances, having a step family involved is sure to cause you grief. He is exactly where he wants to be, don't forget that.
This caregiver needs to "hit the road" and a reliable and conscientious one located.
Your profile states:
"They over the years have taken advantage of my father and him being uneducated and poor and an alcoholic to the point of no return. I don't know what to do. They take his check spend it on drugs and my dad no longer has a phone to where I can call and check on him. I have been advised to look into being an overseer over him. "
Could you elaborate on how these individuals are predators and dominating your father's life? Have the police ever been involved? Have you contacted APS or other invention type agency to become involved?