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Explain yo Mom you are considered Seniors too. That your husband still works and has his own home to take care of. She needs to pay someone to care for her properties. Maybe its time for her to sell her property if she can no longer care for it. You need to set boundaries.
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Why does anyone expect the maintenance to be done for free?

Does the trust make a provision of funds for such work? If so, do it -- and who cares if anyone gets suspicious or cranky or gossipy over it. Anyone who complains should be told that they are welcome to come do it themselves.

You can only do so much. I would have your Mom's cognition tested. If you are her PoA you need to make decisions in her best interests. This does NOT mean you do the work yourself or struggle to find freebees for her (as this is no longer sustainable or in the realm of reality).

If you don't harden yourself against the mere opinions of others then you are not the right person to be trustee. Don't make emotional decisions or they will surely be bad decisions.

I wish you wisdom and peace in your heart as you manage the trust.
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Lander22 Mar 9, 2026
I'm going to discuss this with her attorney to see if I can pay myself or pay someone else. We are being taken advantage of with the reminder that we're inheriting all this stuff. I don't even want it now.
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