My mother owns two homes and land that she obviously expects my husband and I to take care of. We have our own home and yard to mow and my husband still works full time. I don't know how to push back on her when she complains about everything "going downhill" and needing work. I suggested a neighbor man and a relative to help out and she threw her little tantrum. We cannot keep up with the work and she controls the money and receives crop money to maintain the property. I am the trustee but she blabs everything to her nosy sisters so I have to be careful what I say and do. They judge me and would think I'm taking advantage if I were to take over her finances. The properties are needing work but I'm 60 years old with a bad back and do the mowing myself. Where does this end?
Does the trust make a provision of funds for such work? If so, do it -- and who cares if anyone gets suspicious or cranky or gossipy over it. Anyone who complains should be told that they are welcome to come do it themselves.
You can only do so much. I would have your Mom's cognition tested. If you are her PoA you need to make decisions in her best interests. This does NOT mean you do the work yourself or struggle to find freebees for her (as this is no longer sustainable or in the realm of reality).
If you don't harden yourself against the mere opinions of others then you are not the right person to be trustee. Don't make emotional decisions or they will surely be bad decisions.
I wish you wisdom and peace in your heart as you manage the trust.