He's suing me and the bank. He's on medication for his dementia and I don't think he told his lawyer he has dementia. My father has been threatening me for some time about doing this. I've told him his money is safe. He also receives his ss check and has that money available to him. I was representative, because his doctor filled out a form stating he's incompetent to handle his funds and I never touched that money and somehow he managed to take me off of his check as payee representative, which I didn't have a problem with because his behavior towards me was becoming more hostile. I was having a very hard time transitioning from daughter to parent and am still struggling with it. My father wants $15,000 in excess stating on his summons that I took his money and converted to my own use and giving it to others. His money was used for health care, bills, insurance, his wife, taking care of everyday needs for him which he was in a facility and when he got home. Also maintenance of his and my mother's house. All his other money is still in the bank gaining interest and I just recently withdrew $900 to further pay for the maintenance of the house. My father has access to over$20,000 from his social security and will not contribute in any way to assist my mother his wife with anything.
Hope this helps you as well.
All good and perfect advice above that should be followed through. Who has medical POA? You? Who made and signed the medical POA [also called Living Will?] But please follow through with all the ladies' advice above and I believe that your Dad will "lose" his case against you. Dementia can be a very weird disease. One minute he may feel this way and then the next day forget all that he said and wanted to do. My Mom was like this, although it wasn't about money and POA's. God Bless you and may He give you justice and His Peace about it all.
I wish that I could tell you that there's an easy answer, but there isn't. It's no fun and not at all what we plan for, I mean who would want to plan out such a hard scenario? However, it is what it is and we have to do the best we can with what we have. If you are doing the very best that you can for your parents, then you are doing your job well. Don't ever forget that.
Sending you a big virtual hug!