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If I understand this, you are in NJ and she's in FL? I guess that doesn't matter with my response. She needs to be closer to you regardless what state you're in now. If you are ready to move, then move to be nearer to her...or visa versa. If the plan is to move her from rehab to AL or MC, then decide where YOU will be living and find suitable placement for her near your residence. Then you can visit at any time to see how things are going. And spending time with her before she is gone will be important to you at the end.
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So, if I understand correctly, you want to move into her house in FL and move her into AL near her house. Is that correct? I think it is an ok idea, but it might work better to move her to a facility near where you currently live. If she can make the trip by plane.
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MACinCT Feb 2023
Ct is a very expensive state for care and it sucks that you live so far from them. If she is on a Medicare Advantage program, then you have to move her first and then enroll her in a plan. There may be a gap in coverage between the move. If she is strait Medicare, then not to worry.
I did the opposite, moved south and then my mom. The transportation is the issue. If she is still able to travel by plane with assistance then great. Does she still have an ID to get through TSA? Then who is going to pack up the house and sell? Your options is to do it yourself or hire people with mom's money.
Keep in touch with rehab and ask for a video care meeting to see what she can and cannot do.
This will take a bit of planning which needs a few weeks. You are her guardian which means you do not have to pay for her care. You just assist with bill paying and making the decisions on where she should go. Later you may have to fill the paperwork for long term care.
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Back in 2013, I tried to help my ill mother, but as POA, it got so difficult, I had to transfer duties to my brother who lives out of state where mother was moved to. I have a disability and just got too upset to continue her last 15 months of her life. Passed away at age 95.
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I am sorry for the loss of your Father.

It takes time to grieve. Snap big decisions are advised against. For at least 12 months. But I see Mother's health has changed & accommodation needs to be sorted.

It was nice your folks enjoyed their snowbird years 😊
It's ok to grieve that is over now too.

But to now: Where do YOU want to live?

Coz really, living in an air-conditioned assisted living or memory care, will it be a huge difference for your Mother if she lives in Florida or not?
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I would keep my life as is unless you hate your life and want a change. But do not move to FL for your mother. You will very likely regret it. Move her into a facility near you. Then you have your life and can visit more easily, etc.
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