My mother asked me to pick her up at 730 am to take her to her home that she is getting ready to rent out. I said " Yes I will drop you off and go back to my home to finish feeding and taking care of my animals then come back to take you grocery shopping. Well the house painter was 45 min. late and I told her I needed to get home to take care of the animals. Well that put her in a huff and she decided to have me take her back to her apt. I dropped her off but as she was getting out of my car, she yelled at me and called me " A COMPLETE B***H. We haven't talked in a month and a half. I feel she owes me an apology and it's tearing me apart. She is 90 years old and I feel she has no respect for my boundaries. Am I being unreasonable?. I feel she is verbally and mentally abusing me. I tend to almost all of her needs. I do so much for her. I just had my 60th birthday and she didn't even call or text me but on her 90th birthday in July I was the only one that made sure she had a wonderful day.. she has been this way with me for many many years
I have no patience for that behavior anymore. Any outbursts like that have me not coming around for quite some time. It doesn’t really prevent the poor behavior but it makes me feel better to only endure it infrequently. At some point I may just end all contact. Life is too short. I don’t care if you are my parent or not.
As for me, I wouldn't do a thing for disrespectful people. I would probably limit my time spent with this person. It got so bad with my dad before he died that he was lucky if he received a visit twice a year from me. I went to therapy for years, but it wasn't that I didn't care anymore. I stopped visiting because I was exhausted emotionally. He emotionally abused us for years.