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They’re tending to patients and doing their jobs. Not like they can just up and run to the phone right away. The immediate needs take precedence, as they should.
They probably can't answer because they are more than likely short staffed and are running around like chickens with their heads chopped off taking care of everyone's needs. Have you tried putting a landline phone in your sisters room so you can just call her directly? And if that's not possible for whatever reason, then you must learn some patience and appreciate that the staff are busy taking care of their patients and not just sitting around waiting for the phone to ring.
They’re busy doing their jobs and taking care of patients. A nursing home is not a call center, so wait patiently until they pick up. The nurses are not going to stop their work with patients to speak to every visitor, well-wisher, or distant relation that calls by a certain number of phone rings. This is a very Karen complaint.
Probably understaffing which is an issue in just about every nursing home in my opinion. I would rather staff be taking care of the needs of residents than making answering phone calls the priority. If it's a chronic issue, you could contact the administrator but sadly, I wouldn't count on much changing. Give some grace to the bedside workers as they are probably doing the best that they can.
The 3 NHs in my area have receptionists who can transfer calls to rooms and Nurses Stations. I find the Nurses station may not pick up right away. Why? Because they are with a patient or in a meeting. I think shortness of aides, in my area, the RN and LPNs are needed to pick up some slack. Phone calls are not high priority.
Shifts are usually 7 to 3, 3 to 11 and 11 to 7. Some staff work 12 hr shifts. Mornings are not a good time to call IMO. Residents have to be gotten up and dressed for breakfast. Med passes are done. PT is done. Then...time for lunch. Staff have breaks. The desk is usually manned by RNs. If one goes on break and there is an emergency, no phone gets answered. Or one RN manning the phones so not able to pick up other calls because she is talking to someone on another line.
Do you live near sister? Far away? Are you calling several times a day or just a check in every day. And if a check in every day why? Just to see how sister is doing? If you are the main contact, you will be notified of any fall, ER visits and drastic changes. If you visit regularly you can ask the RN at the nurses desk how she has been.
So, why is it so important to get thru to nursing staff?
So from our personal experience (as in we actually saw it with our own eyes) - the SNF where my FIL was, a receptionist answered all calls between 8am and 5pm (M-F). And then would forward to the appropriate Nurse's Station. After 5pm the phone rolled over to a nurse's station - although they might still need to transfer because it might not be the correct station.
Now that being said, we had several experiences with trying to get through and not having anyone pick up the phone. At first it was frustrating - until we understood that at a given time every single person available was either on their rounds or helping patients.
While I suppose it could happen - I never once witnessed a situation where someone was just sitting there ignoring the phone- with the exception of when a patient or patient's family was standing in front of them and had their attention.
More often than not - and I did this frequently - I would situate myself on a couch off the beaten path (aka out of the eyeshot of the nurse's station) and work on my FIL's phone (it was every single visit that he messed something up until we finally had to take it away from him). I could HEAR the phone ringing constantly - but every single time if I glanced around the corner, there was no one at the desk, they were all helping residents.
I'm also going to be fully transparent. We ended up putting my FIL's very intrusive sister, who did everything in her power to manipulate the staff and degrade them, on the "do not call, do not answer" list. They had our permission to ignore her calls if they wanted to LOL.
I will also say that I saw the receptionist come up on a couple of occasions and let them know it was urgent that someone speak with a particular person and they would stop as soon as they could to call them back.
The reality is that they are not there to answer calls from resident's families. They are there to take care of the residents.
The approach we took was that if there was an emergency, they would call US. If we needed something from them, we would leave a message. If for some reason it was urgent we would tell the receptionist. (We never had to do that). Because every time they had to stop to answer our questions, that was another resident, including our own, who had to wait for them to finish with our call before they got the help they needed.
BlueEyedGirl94, That is very helpful and insightful information. Thank you for sharing.
You are right. The nursing home is not set up to be a call center. And sometimes there are self-absorbed, manipulative family members who want to make every situation about them. I, too, experienced that when my husband was in a nursing home. My Daughter-In-Law called me, crying and complaining because my husband with dementia was being mean to her. I asked her what she wanted me to do, and she responded by calling me some very nasty names.
I can't imagine how you can think we have any control over your nursing home or that we would be better able to answer your very reasonable question than THEY are? As to what the limit is? I must assume they are busy; no one likes a ringing phone.
If this is ongoing and a terrible problem for you then I would call the Administration office at this place and discuss with someone who may have a good many more answers or suggestions than we do. Another idea or hint is to be certain to ask what are the best TIMES to call. I do know as an RN that "shift change" isn't it.
Good luck. Sorry you are going through this. But on a level of stuff that happens for all in elder care, this is mild, and I hope things never get any worse for you. Take good care.
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Be glad she isn't calling you crying to "go home" all day.
Have you tried putting a landline phone in your sisters room so you can just call her directly? And if that's not possible for whatever reason, then you must learn some patience and appreciate that the staff are busy taking care of their patients and not just sitting around waiting for the phone to ring.
But, often the situation and the answer is a little more complex.
Your perspective is a lot like mine. Through this experience, I am learning to be more patient and kind. Mostly.
Shifts are usually 7 to 3, 3 to 11 and 11 to 7. Some staff work 12 hr shifts. Mornings are not a good time to call IMO. Residents have to be gotten up and dressed for breakfast. Med passes are done. PT is done. Then...time for lunch. Staff have breaks. The desk is usually manned by RNs. If one goes on break and there is an emergency, no phone gets answered. Or one RN manning the phones so not able to pick up other calls because she is talking to someone on another line.
Do you live near sister? Far away? Are you calling several times a day or just a check in every day. And if a check in every day why? Just to see how sister is doing? If you are the main contact, you will be notified of any fall, ER visits and drastic changes. If you visit regularly you can ask the RN at the nurses desk how she has been.
So, why is it so important to get thru to nursing staff?
Now that being said, we had several experiences with trying to get through and not having anyone pick up the phone. At first it was frustrating - until we understood that at a given time every single person available was either on their rounds or helping patients.
While I suppose it could happen - I never once witnessed a situation where someone was just sitting there ignoring the phone- with the exception of when a patient or patient's family was standing in front of them and had their attention.
More often than not - and I did this frequently - I would situate myself on a couch off the beaten path (aka out of the eyeshot of the nurse's station) and work on my FIL's phone (it was every single visit that he messed something up until we finally had to take it away from him). I could HEAR the phone ringing constantly - but every single time if I glanced around the corner, there was no one at the desk, they were all helping residents.
I'm also going to be fully transparent. We ended up putting my FIL's very intrusive sister, who did everything in her power to manipulate the staff and degrade them, on the "do not call, do not answer" list. They had our permission to ignore her calls if they wanted to LOL.
I will also say that I saw the receptionist come up on a couple of occasions and let them know it was urgent that someone speak with a particular person and they would stop as soon as they could to call them back.
The reality is that they are not there to answer calls from resident's families. They are there to take care of the residents.
The approach we took was that if there was an emergency, they would call US. If we needed something from them, we would leave a message. If for some reason it was urgent we would tell the receptionist. (We never had to do that). Because every time they had to stop to answer our questions, that was another resident, including our own, who had to wait for them to finish with our call before they got the help they needed.
Thank you for sharing.
You are right. The nursing home is not set up to be a call center. And sometimes there are self-absorbed, manipulative family members who want to make every situation about them.
I, too, experienced that when my husband was in a nursing home. My Daughter-In-Law called me, crying and complaining because my husband with dementia was being mean to her. I asked her what she wanted me to do, and she responded by calling me some very nasty names.
As to what the limit is? I must assume they are busy; no one likes a ringing phone.
If this is ongoing and a terrible problem for you then I would call the Administration office at this place and discuss with someone who may have a good many more answers or suggestions than we do. Another idea or hint is to be certain to ask what are the best TIMES to call. I do know as an RN that "shift change" isn't it.
Good luck. Sorry you are going through this. But on a level of stuff that happens for all in elder care, this is mild, and I hope things never get any worse for you. Take good care.
Or, you call their front desk receptionist and ask this question.
Are you calling your sister's room? Or her floor nurse station? Where is your call actually going?
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