We (his primary caregiver and his POA) know what he is capable of doing, and he refuses to do anything- Laundry dishes, trash, simple things to help myself and his Primary caregiver. We can only do so much, and if he refuses and keeps refusing, what can we do? We both are really burnt out. Do you think it's time for a nursing home so he can interact with others? We are really torn in what to do, please help.
IMO, yes he needs NH care. With Dementia he is in his own little world. He is like a child. He does not understand what you want of him. Get his PCP to evaluate and write an order that he now needs 24/7 care. If he has money, spend it down by placing him on private pay and apply for Medicaid before it runs out. If his income is just SS and maybe a pension, then you can apply for Medicaid. There's more involved, just giving u the basics.
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Did you not find the answers to your last question helpful? It really sounds like your entire family is getting burned out caring for your grandfather.
To be placed in a nursing home, your grandpa will need a doctor to certify that he needs skilled nursing care. Does he have a regular doctor that your family can consult?
In New York, the Office for the Aging was very helpful. They had a social worker who came out to the house and evaluated the patient to see what level of care they needed. In that county, they also offered one hour a week of caregiving to the family for free.
For us, they suggested an Adult Day care and arranged the transportation. The cost was on a sliding scale and because this wasn't a wealthy family, it didn't cost the family much at all- I think it was $20 a day.
But if your family wants your grandfather placed somewhere, I think the first step is to get a medical person to tell you what level of care he needs. This will tell you what facility he is qualified to be placed in.
I think the Office on Aging is a good place to start.