Brother and distant relative are just sitting back and collecting, they have kept father isolated from me. Just found out he had passed 6 mos. ago. they have taken everything and spread it around. But most have a paper trail. Cousin tricked a bank loan for her to buy house.with his assets, brother living in other property, he was evicted from, Thousands of dollars in CDs missing, and, when I reported these things they took no action, They made reports, but couldnt proove them. Yet the things we told them turned out to be true, So why hasnt anyone done anything? They are predators and should be stopped before another person loses their hard earned money to these lifetime thieves. Her record of stealing and not paying debts is recorded. she has been lying to get taxes reduced and has bought cars, homes and things she otherwise couldnt get. We have the will. there is a reason my brother was disowned. My father had found out about his deceit and lies, and watched him steal. He was pretty much done with him. I think they both shouldbe prosecuted, and stripped from anything. and the authorities that help them do the uneasy transactions should also be reported. They are getting away with ever illegal move they can. and reducing his asset quickly. They are busy spending his money and covering their butts. We want them procesed and charged with these crimes. Assets are going fast. And the Authorities should be held accountable for not investigating our claims. apparently the brother and cousin have conned previously when when his mother died so quickly. What is wrong with people, ? Crimes have been committed. Are they that greedy, bribes take over human lives?
I have been in healthcare my whole life and I know being a caregiver is not easy
but do not judge all family members who want to be there for their elder person and by family circumstances and dynamics have had that choice taken from them!!!
If I was a law enforcement officer and these allegations were presented to me in the fashion they are in the OP's post, I would be inclined to think that this was a situation in which the OP wasn't involved in care (how could he/she be if she wasn't close enough to her father to know he died 6 months ago?).
Yet she states that the brother and someone else have "taken everything and spread it around." How is it that she knows so much about the alleged fraudulent activities but not about her own father's decline and death?
There are too many inconsistencies and allegations raised in this tale to make it believable.
1) Is there some reason Tina62 was not involved in her father's care? For example, does she live on the other side of country?
2) Was she named in a will or trust to receive some or all of her father's assets? If so, it looks as if a consultation with an elder care attorney is definitely warranted.
3) We shouldn't assume that nursing home care or in-home care would necessarily "drain the father's resources in no time". If these relatives are buying houses, cars, etc. the father's assets might have been quite substantial, perhaps such that nursing care would have made only a dent in his estate..
Yes, there are some who take advantage but at the end of life, some parents give in to life and know that they can't control everything. A will is a piece of paper and you can't control human nature. There is always a way for dishonest people to steal from an estate and they will. I know that it's hard to do, but you might have to give this one up and reflect on what you did wrong in this situation so that the next time a loved one is ill you will stay closer to home ---for the spiritual rewards as much as for any other rewards.
You might want to check with an elder attorney, pay them to listen to all you have and see if it would be worth your while to pursue this...