Years ago my mother did something that for me severed the bond of mother and daughter.Our relationship over the years has been polite but not close.However,now she has had to move in with me,I am only doing this out of a sense of duty.I have tried not to feel the way I do but I am losing.My day basically consists of doing the things that need to be done for her and otherwise I just live in my bedroom.I am eating myself to death.Things I used to enjoy no longer interest me.Basically she has the run of my whole house.If I hear her outside her bedroom I hide in mine.This is no way to live.To me there is no talking this out.She did what she did.I know the past can't be rewritten but nothing I say or do is going to change this narcissistic passive-aggressive person now living in my house.I can't get past what she did because it just revealed what kind of person she is.
Does your mother know how you feel about her?
So we brought mthr "home", but took her straight to a memory care facility where she could not escape. I've gained another 30 lbs, and I'm in therapy, have her in a home, etc! I understand wanting to protect yourself from the evil.
You screwed up by allowing yours into your home. As Dr. Laura says, she tore up her mother card a long time ago - so it's time for you to grow a backbone! (Dr Laura's radio program can be listened to online pretty cheap if you need some extra support) I call my mthr her first name since I don't feel she is anything but a bio mom. That helps me with reality vs perceptions. And by referring to her as mthr in writing makes it plain that I'm not talking about the sweet one most people have. "When mothers were being passed out, I was in the wrong line."
You are going to have to get that woman out of your house. There are going to be several methods of good riddance. I searched this forum for evil mother threads, and they are out there. Ignore the sweet gals who make you feel like you are the bad one. They don't know what evil is. You need the hard line to protect yourself!
You can get that woman into the ER and admitted one way or another. A physical injury, suspected flu, or a threat to kill herself work equally well. Once she's in, you refuse to take her home, and the social worker will get her a placement. She may be on medicare, and a ward of the state, but that is ok - that is what they are there for, when people come to the end of their options. And she's done.
Don't give her the chance to accuse you of elder abuse. She will try if she is there long enough. You must get rid of her, the sooner the better. Prepare yourself. Document every thing. You can do this.