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Stressed4real, I read your profile and you mentioned your Mom has Alzheimer's/Dementia.... thus what your Mom is doing is common, and there isn't anything anyone can do to change this behavior.
Arm yourself with as much knowledge as you can about Alzheimer's/Dementia. The Aging Care website has a lot of good articles that are short and to the point. Go to the blue bar near the top of the page and click on SENIOR LIVING.... now click on ALZHEIMER'S CARE... now scroll down the page to all these articles.
Stressed - I'm fairly new here and the wealth of knowledge and experience here has been a sanity saver for me. After about a month here i know two things: I am not alone. No matter what the issue there is someone here -if not several - who are going through almost the exact same thing. Second - what I didn't know about dementia could fill a football stadium! I am now arming myself against this cruel disease and its aftermath as much as possible. As to your original question - I think some of it has to do with resentment and embarrassment. Once upon a time they fed us, wiped our hind ends and made sure we were safe. Now we do it for them - and at the same time are enjoying the freedoms and independence they are seeing slip away. It wasn't suspose to be like this, right? Now we are telling them what to do, how to live - sometimes down to even giving them an allowance. It doesn't matter that we don't want to be doing this either - we are and they can't. Then add in diminishing capacity for reason and you've got one angry, frustrated individual. Good luck to you - I know how you feel!
The rule of thumb is this: The closer you are to the fire, the more you feel the heat. The parent wants to control the child, not the other way around. If this is wearing you down, the healthiest answer is to move her to Assisted Living. That way she can complain about them and enjoy your company.
Stressed, it is usually the way it is. The parent talks about the children they never see like they are perfect. They are too busy or important to be involved in caregiving. The implication, of course, is that the one giving care must not be busy or important.
I often tell my mother that if she spoke to my brothers like she does to me they would never talk to her again. I don't add that they rarely do, anyway. I just think of myself like a Cinderella, doing the things that need to be done and trying to stay as positive as possible. It is better now than it used to be. I don't know how I made it through my first five years here. She was so disrespectful. Now it only happens when she's not feeling well.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Arm yourself with as much knowledge as you can about Alzheimer's/Dementia. The Aging Care website has a lot of good articles that are short and to the point. Go to the blue bar near the top of the page and click on SENIOR LIVING.... now click on ALZHEIMER'S CARE... now scroll down the page to all these articles.
Good luck to you - I know how you feel!
I often tell my mother that if she spoke to my brothers like she does to me they would never talk to her again. I don't add that they rarely do, anyway. I just think of myself like a Cinderella, doing the things that need to be done and trying to stay as positive as possible. It is better now than it used to be. I don't know how I made it through my first five years here. She was so disrespectful. Now it only happens when she's not feeling well.