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First of all this is not normal. I would have her checked for a UTI, dementia and ALZ. When my Daddy said these things to me I made a drs appointment and cleared it up right now.
I just started tape recording this week, because no one believes me. I played the tape for my uncle recently and he was shocked. He said present it to the doctor.
Yes. I told my mom she's breaking my heart and making me lose my mind and she said, "Good. You deserve it after the horrible child you were. You've been a b since you were 2 years old."
Some people will never, ever have class no matter what. They're determined to cause pain.
As I remember, you have the ability too stay away. As you say in the above post, Mom is evil. Stay away, protect yourself. I am sure if she was not your mother you would be walking the other way. Let brother take care of her since he is the golden child.
My main issue is my mom is taking away my autonomy and independance and keeping me from finding my true love
In reality, that is NOT the case and I have chosen to stay complacent by scapegoating my mom when I really need to learn and master the practice of manifestation in order to reach my goals!
I feel you. I’m in similar situation. Find someone to be your accountability whether it is doctor or social worker. I fear my mom will get me in trouble too. She already lies on me. There has to be a safety plan in action for you. Because a cop or stranger would believe anything said and go straight for elder abuse. I am so sorry your are dealing with this.
So, I can't seem to access your previous posts, but if I'm recalling correctly, your mom and her elderly sister live together. Your mother has been consistently abusive, verbally and otherwise throughout your life. And your mother tells untrue things to doctors, attempting to get you into trouble with the law.
You don't wish to cut contact because you wish to assist your Aunt.
Your mother's behavior is not "normal". It may be caused by life-long mental illness or it may be caused by the mental changed that come with dementia.
It is imperative that you protect yourself, both legally and psychologically from her onslaughts.
Finding a therapist who can show you how to do this is your primary task right now.
The next time she says such a thing, tell her you're calling 911 to have her sent to the hospital for a psych evaluation. Then do so. For her sake as well as yours.
Probably some moms who think it but don’t say it. The ones that say it may be in a locked psych ward. Which is a good idea. Can you have her evaluated? Has she ever been violent with anyone? This is a bright red flag.
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Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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Prayers for you to protect yourself against her hate.
Some people will never, ever have class no matter what. They're determined to cause pain.
https://www.agingcare.com/questions/how-should-i-deal-with-false-accusations-from-a-mentally-fit-mean-mom-477399.htm
As I remember, you have the ability too stay away. As you say in the above post, Mom is evil. Stay away, protect yourself. I am sure if she was not your mother you would be walking the other way. Let brother take care of her since he is the golden child.
My main issue is my mom is taking away my autonomy and independance and keeping me from finding my true love
In reality, that is NOT the case and I have chosen to stay complacent by scapegoating my mom when I really need to learn and master the practice of manifestation in order to reach my goals!
You don't wish to cut contact because you wish to assist your Aunt.
Your mother's behavior is not "normal". It may be caused by life-long mental illness or it may be caused by the mental changed that come with dementia.
It is imperative that you protect yourself, both legally and psychologically from her onslaughts.
Finding a therapist who can show you how to do this is your primary task right now.