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Savannah, like you, I'm single with no children. My mom is still here, but I've worked very hard in the past year to create a better life for myself, understanding that when my mom goes, I'll feel pretty alone. I have a brother who lives in another state and he's been very little help with mom.
What I did was I found a physical sport I LOVE - pickleball. I play it as many days a week as I can. It lets me get exercise, be with other nice people, yell, and be competitive in a fun way. I've introduced a number of women to the sport and we all love it. Find some kind of physical activity you can do and enjoy. It would be better for you right now if it would be some kind of group activity, so you can be around others. Whether it's yoga or zumba or a spin class or pickleball, whatever you can do an enjoy is a great way to start!
Get active in some groups. I started my own women's group a year ago through MeetUpdotcom for women over 50 and I've met some wonderful women through that group. A number of us have parents we're caregiving for or have done that in the past. So try to find some women you can become active with. Just sharing your life with others can make you feel so much more connected and positive.
I also volunteer three hours a week at a non-profit and then I do some individual volunteer events through my group. Volunteering is a wonderful way to feel useful and to meet other very nice people. Feeling needed after being a caregiver stops is important to our sense of selves, I believe.
So start thinking about your personal caregiving plan for yourself and get started. It will take a while, but I guarantee if you get out and about with others, you'll start to feel better. Hugs and please come back and keep us posted on how you're doing. We understand!
So, Savannah. Thank you for your answers! I think I might pretend like I moved to a brand new town. So. What would I do there?
Well, first, I'd find a church I wanted to join. At your new church, volunteer for all the bake sales, rummage sales and spaghetti dinners. I'm assuming you have a job. If not, get one...at the least, part-time.
I assuming you're single. Buy a couple new outfits and explore area singles dances. If for no other reason than social and exercise. I met my partner of 15 years at a singles dance when I was 53. You have time.
Pick a hobby. Any hobby. Take some classes. I just got thru getting my concealed carry license. I'm 68 years old. It's never too late. I'll just share that I have COPD and have survived two cancers. Next Friday, we're going to line dancing classes with some neighbors.
Resurrect some girlfriends. We have a crew of four that go. Out the fourth Friday of every month to laugh our little butts off and make fools of ourselves.
Little by little by little. You are a young woman who's probably, as a caregiver, acting like an old woman. Buy some dancin' shoes! It's time to rock!
Thanks MaggieMarshall. I'm an only child, mid 40's, no siblings or children. My mom was in a SNF for a few months (due to my own medical needs) before succumbing to Alz. Prior, mom lived in my home where I cared for her.
Savannah, as said above, it does take time to grieve, I would try reaching out to friends and family, take some walks in the fresh air, and think about your next move. Are you intending to return to work, or are you working now? Perhaps taking some refresher courses this fall in Community College may help you to adjust to your new and Exciting Life! Remember, your life now is going to be what you make it, think of it like an adventure, wnd cut yourself some slack, your life has been enmeshed in caring for someone who you deeply loved, and she would only want the very best for you and your future, if it were me, I'd take a Rod Trip, alone or with a friend! You deserve it, remember that! Good Luck and God Bless
Savannah, I'm sorry for your loss. It must be especially difficult after having cared for your mother for so long.
What would YOU like to do? What have you always wanted to, especially during the last 10 years, but couldn't do because of your caregiving responsibilities?
Do you want to ...travel? go back to work? do volunteer work? read? take up a new craft or hobby?
And what were you doing before becoming a caregiver? Perhaps you'd like to pick up where you left off.
Grieving does take time, maybe you just need to vent, or maybe you want some pragmatic ideas.
Any time you have a change in your life is the best time to adopt new habits. Take steps towards normalcy, even if you have to force yourself.
You now have some free time, so spend a little more on yourself, walk 30 minutes in the AM, eat better, call old friends. Make a list of the things you never had time for and try to do a couple a week. Join something that will provide routine: scrapbooking class, book club, etc..
Most importantly, forgive yourself for the guilt over the relief you feel. Give yourself permission to be happy. You are important and your deserve happiness.
Hi Savannahsmile. I am very sorry for Your loss, and what an example You are to Me..since You cared for Your Mom for 10+ years. You have been a wonderful Daughter to Your Mom. I'm also single, with no Children, and I'm 55 years young. I have been caring for My Mum for these past 21/2 years. My Mother has Alzheimer's and is 86 years.I have asked Myself that question too, WHAT WILL I DO WHEN MOTHERs BATTLE WITH ALZHEIMER's IS ENDED ? I know there is a mourning period, and I find great comfort going for long walks by the coast, which is not far from where I live. It's a great way to de stress. After a time I will get back to work again, and try to bring normality back into My Life. I will get a dog, that way I will get in plenty walks daily. Give Yourself time Savannah to heal. Do not rush it, just take in plenty fresh air. After 10+ years x 24/7x365 You kneed a long vacation, and when You are ready, You will know what the next step is.
Make a list of YOU things that were in the back of your mind but never had the time or energy to do. Put them in order of importance. Pick one thing every couple of weeks.
Get a new haircut. Go to the dentist. Have a medical checkup. Stop at the makeup counter in a good department store and let those girls do their thing on a free makeover. Walk in the park. Call an old friend from high school. Go to the library, check out a juicy novel and join one of the book clubs. Offer to read to the children's reading group. Go to the YMCA and see what interest you.
I am sorry for your loss. Ten years is such a long time to be strong. Keep your chin up and fill that void with positive and good things!
(((Tight HUG))) It is a very strange place to be in... Sorry she isnt here with you any more, I too have been caring for my mother for 10yr. After clearing her things out of her apartment it is becoming real. All those things I dreamt of doing dont seem so important anymore....all I see is an empty floor. Mine hasn't passed yet, but we have lived so long for them... who are we? The other answers are good up there..... take time to heal and strengthen.
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Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
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What I did was I found a physical sport I LOVE - pickleball. I play it as many days a week as I can. It lets me get exercise, be with other nice people, yell, and be competitive in a fun way. I've introduced a number of women to the sport and we all love it. Find some kind of physical activity you can do and enjoy. It would be better for you right now if it would be some kind of group activity, so you can be around others. Whether it's yoga or zumba or a spin class or pickleball, whatever you can do an enjoy is a great way to start!
Get active in some groups. I started my own women's group a year ago through MeetUpdotcom for women over 50 and I've met some wonderful women through that group. A number of us have parents we're caregiving for or have done that in the past. So try to find some women you can become active with. Just sharing your life with others can make you feel so much more connected and positive.
I also volunteer three hours a week at a non-profit and then I do some individual volunteer events through my group. Volunteering is a wonderful way to feel useful and to meet other very nice people. Feeling needed after being a caregiver stops is important to our sense of selves, I believe.
So start thinking about your personal caregiving plan for yourself and get started. It will take a while, but I guarantee if you get out and about with others, you'll start to feel better. Hugs and please come back and keep us posted on how you're doing. We understand!
Well, first, I'd find a church I wanted to join. At your new church, volunteer for all the bake sales, rummage sales and spaghetti dinners. I'm assuming you have a job. If not, get one...at the least, part-time.
I assuming you're single. Buy a couple new outfits and explore area singles dances. If for no other reason than social and exercise. I met my partner of 15 years at a singles dance when I was 53. You have time.
Pick a hobby. Any hobby. Take some classes. I just got thru getting my concealed carry license. I'm 68 years old. It's never too late. I'll just share that I have COPD and have survived two cancers. Next Friday, we're going to line dancing classes with some neighbors.
Resurrect some girlfriends. We have a crew of four that go. Out the fourth Friday of every month to laugh our little butts off and make fools of ourselves.
Little by little by little. You are a young woman who's probably, as a caregiver, acting like an old woman. Buy some dancin' shoes! It's time to rock!
What would YOU like to do? What have you always wanted to, especially during the last 10 years, but couldn't do because of your caregiving responsibilities?
Do you want to ...travel? go back to work? do volunteer work? read? take up a new craft or hobby?
And what were you doing before becoming a caregiver? Perhaps you'd like to pick up where you left off.
Any time you have a change in your life is the best time to adopt new habits.
Take steps towards normalcy, even if you have to force yourself.
You now have some free time, so spend a little more on yourself, walk 30 minutes in the AM, eat better, call old friends. Make a list of the things you never had time for and try to do a couple a week. Join something that will provide routine: scrapbooking class, book club, etc..
Most importantly, forgive yourself for the guilt over the relief you feel. Give yourself permission to be happy. You are important and your deserve happiness.
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I'm also single, with no Children, and I'm 55 years young. I have been caring for My Mum for these past 21/2 years. My Mother has Alzheimer's and is 86 years.I have asked Myself that question too, WHAT WILL I DO WHEN MOTHERs
BATTLE WITH ALZHEIMER's IS ENDED ? I know there is a mourning period, and I find great comfort going for long walks by the coast, which is not far from where I live. It's a great way to de stress. After a time I will get back to work again, and try to bring normality back into My Life. I will get a dog, that way I will get in plenty walks daily. Give Yourself time Savannah to heal. Do not rush it, just take in plenty fresh air. After 10+ years x 24/7x365 You kneed a long vacation, and when You are ready, You will know what the next step is.
Get a new haircut. Go to the dentist. Have a medical checkup. Stop at the makeup counter in a good department store and let those girls do their thing on a free makeover. Walk in the park. Call an old friend from high school. Go to the library, check out a juicy novel and join one of the book clubs. Offer to read to the children's reading group. Go to the YMCA and see what interest you.
I am sorry for your loss. Ten years is such a long time to be strong. Keep your chin up and fill that void with positive and good things!
Sorry she isnt here with you any more, I too have been caring for my mother for 10yr. After clearing her things out of her apartment it is becoming real. All those things I dreamt of doing dont seem so important anymore....all I see is an empty floor.
Mine hasn't passed yet, but we have lived so long for them... who are we?
The other answers are good up there..... take time to heal and strengthen.
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