My mum is a dementia patient and is 89 years old. I and my hubby were thinking to shift her to an assisted living home care in Bridgewood. Her memory loss problem is now severely impaired and she has been showing signs of aggression and has been belligerent. Please help me if you have any suggestions as to how to handle talking to her before moving her into the nursing home. I've no idea on how we are gonna get her there when she refuses the assisted living. I also wanted to know how much will be cost of pay? Please share.
When I first placed my cousin into regular Assisted Living, it seemed like it would work, but as she progressed very quickly with her dementia, it became apparent that a regular Assisted Living was not sufficient and I had to move her to a Secure Memory Care facility. People who are severely effected with dementia require a lot of time, attention and support that most people in regular AL do not. I'd ask about about in detail. They may have a professional who can do a needs assessment to determine what level of care she needs.
Have you visited their facilities? I toured various places when searching for my cousin a place. I think that helps see what they have to offer.
Also, since she is being aggressive, I'd consult with her doctor immediately as Babalou suggested. See if that can be addressed first, since, if she is resistant, aggressive and acting out, placement for her may be more challenging.
When someone is severely effected with dementia, I'm not sure how much preplanning with them is feasible. They may not be able to process the information and if they do, they are likely to forget what was discussed moments later. I worked with my cousin's doctor, who said she had to go into AL. We called it rehab, to help with her physical therapy, medication, nutrition, etc. But, as she progressed, she didn't understand things like that and she was content to be in the facility.