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He can do it himself, but does not want any help. It is a big shower with a chair and grab bars. It is now 4 weeks and he tells me every day he will do it, but he just doesn’t do it. I am at the end asking.
Can't say he will want that option either.. but compromise IS good. Maybe negotiate how many a week (ie 2-3). You may want to live with a nice clean man & prefer him to shower 7 days a week, he may want 0 - avoiding all showers because it has become too hard/too exhausting/fear/pride etc.
Find a reasonable compromise, safe, with a trained Aide, grab rails & a shower chair .
Next step to that is NH with 2 Aides in shower or to do a bed bath.
🤞 Fingers crossed for you that he is not too stubborn!
Dunningen36, when it comes to baths/showers for someone who is older, it is like going to the gym for a work out. Even I find it very tiring and I am in my 70’s. Then throw into the mix health and/or mobility issues.
Some people become claustrophobic when in a shower. Especially if there are glass doors. Keeping the far shower door opened a bit may help. Sitting in the tub works but it is a major chore getting in to sit down, and more so trying to get up :P
Then there is the fear of falling. If your love one is using a moisturizing liquid soap and/or hair conditioners, it will make the floor of the tub/shower feel like an ice rink, even with a tub mat inside.
A person doesn't need to shower daily, once a week is good enough, unless one is doing hard labor [long ago, Saturday night was bath night]. If a love one is a Depends wearer, baby wipes work quite well between showers. Recently I found a product called “Water Wipes” in the baby section, quite pleased with the product.
Forget about the immersion showers and use no rinse products. They're wonderful! I learned about them when my father was in rehab, and used them when I had an appendectomy.
They're very refreshing, easy to apply, and can be down w/o completely disrobing. Your husband could even "bathe" while sitting in a favorite chair listening to favorite music.
Sometimes what appears to be procrastination is discomfort, with some aspect of disrobing, getting cold (a big concern) or other issues.
One product:
http://cleanlifeproducts.com/
There are lots of other products, found in the shampoo section of stores, or at drug stores.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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Can't say he will want that option either.. but compromise IS good. Maybe negotiate how many a week (ie 2-3). You may want to live with a nice clean man & prefer him to shower 7 days a week, he may want 0 - avoiding all showers because it has become too hard/too exhausting/fear/pride etc.
Find a reasonable compromise, safe, with a trained Aide, grab rails & a shower chair .
Next step to that is NH with 2 Aides in shower or to do a bed bath.
🤞 Fingers crossed for you that he is not too stubborn!
Some people become claustrophobic when in a shower. Especially if there are glass doors. Keeping the far shower door opened a bit may help. Sitting in the tub works but it is a major chore getting in to sit down, and more so trying to get up :P
Then there is the fear of falling. If your love one is using a moisturizing liquid soap and/or hair conditioners, it will make the floor of the tub/shower feel like an ice rink, even with a tub mat inside.
A person doesn't need to shower daily, once a week is good enough, unless one is doing hard labor [long ago, Saturday night was bath night]. If a love one is a Depends wearer, baby wipes work quite well between showers. Recently I found a product called “Water Wipes” in the baby section, quite pleased with the product.
They're very refreshing, easy to apply, and can be down w/o completely disrobing. Your husband could even "bathe" while sitting in a favorite chair listening to favorite music.
Sometimes what appears to be procrastination is discomfort, with some aspect of disrobing, getting cold (a big concern) or other issues.
One product:
http://cleanlifeproducts.com/
There are lots of other products, found in the shampoo section of stores, or at drug stores.