Brother is mentally retarded, very strong, lives at home and parents won't let him live elsewhere. I am also living at home to try to help parents without causing brother to go to jail as he threatens suicide if jailed. I recently confronted him on another issue and he was taken to a local hospital for a psych evaluation, but he was diagnosed with "stress disorder", not the OCD that keeps him in the bathroom washing constantly. Parents are afraid of him and mother won't call police ever or back up my stepfather or my claims. Any ideas?
She gives him answers like, "well, we'll have to build a ramp for the stairs," as mom is in a wheelchair. When we ask her why she gives him this false hope she shrugs and says, "Oh, he'll forget I said it."
We, on the other hand, are always very direct with dad about mom's condition and why she has to be in a nursing home. Of course dad favors his daughter who visits with false hope. Very frustrating! I say we ignore it; my husband says it is wrong of her and gives us added stress.
Please don't move out just yet. Try to get otuside help for the situation. I know how horrible it can be when family tries to take care of things.... the only answer is OUTSIDE help. There is too much history, too many fights, feelings, resentment, etc. for you four to work it out. Good luck finding the right person/agency to help!
Since it's your parents house they can't move and your brother probably can't live on his own perhaps you can take a small apartment nearby. You can still look in on your parents but not have to live with your brother.