I took care of an elderly man. His son and daughter came and saw him a few times out of the year and half I lived with him. I don't believe he just died, everything just is not right to me. He never went to the doctor but he was to me in good health except that he had a hard time breathing after he walked just to the car; it would take him about 5min to gather himself. I've asked him if he wanted to go to the hospital he said no I am fine and he was as sharp as anything. When his son came to visit I explained to him he had a fever two days ago but it went down. I frequently took his temp, the son called his sister and she came by to check him. I told them he should go to the doctor because we had been exposed to covid. I even put a lg note on the door to let people know I took a test. I didn't have it I just wanted to be sure he was okay. He told his daughter he was fine so the son came the next day with his sister and told him to let them call a friend that works for hospice just to check him out and make sure. He agreed with them. A nurse came and said his oxygen was low but that was all she saw so they told the dad he needed more oxygent and if he would sign the paper so they could bring a machine so he could breather better and bring up his level. Okay, he signed now when the dad lay down I went to my room and overheard them talking and they said now he can't be revived if he stops breathing. As I walked in the living room I sat down they say you can even call an ambulance. I said excuse me are you saying if your dad happens to stop breathing I can't do cpr on him they said well my dad said if he stops breathing he doesn't want to be revived but that isn't what I heard them telling him it was just for bring up his level. Then later about two days later the machine is not working proper so I call the daughter to call hospice cause the machine isn't giving out any oxygen, so I got the emergence one and his level went back up and he was talking and everything. He went to bathroom by himself, eat, then the daughter comes. She is asking her dad to sign papers for power of attorney. He got mad and said I don't want you on my account, she said ok but if something happens to you how am I going to know what to do. So he was explaining certain thing to her then I notice the machine is not working again. I told her this is not right he should have full oxygen why are they giving him these bad machine. Then I went to get a few things, I come back and he tells me when his daughter left to make an appointment for him with cignia in a week for a second happening and why is my daughter acting like I am dying. I said I don't know but we will prove them wrong. The nurse came by and the daughter said his lungs were filling up. I got all upset. Why aren't any of them taking him to the hospital. It was as if they are letting him die. Then I told the daughter why she wasn't taking him she said because he is dying. I said how do you know, he has never been to the doctors. They can drian the fluid so he can breath, no this is the process of him dying. I still don't get it. Then the nurse says well we can give him ocxycotten. I am surprised she stared to hand me it and told me to squeeze it in his mouth. I said no I am not, he is in no pain. They ask him are you in pain, no I am fine. Yes I know you are fine but this will help you breathe. I walk out of the room because I didn't understand why they are giving him that, he never to any kind of drugs only aspirin. When they came out I told the nurse isn't oxycodone or cottemn can't that give you a heart attack. Oh no this to help them breath I never heard of that. Then they left although he still had his mind he told to get something for him so I did it was some evenlopes telling what the marks meant then the daughter came in and it was as he had gotten scared of her and she grab the evenlopes. He said I want her to have the van if I die and the evenlope, I said no Larry try to relax and breathe he said Alice please ok I said thank you I had to walk out I still didn't
If you suspect something illegal, can you go to the Police?
For you, sorry you lost your friend. Sorry that the family treated him and you the way they did. If there was anything he wanted you to have, he should have put it in a Will or added it to his Will with a Cidicil. I hope you had somewhere to go? A live in should always have a back up plan.
Even if your client signed a POA its void when he dies. Can't be used to get to his accts, sell the house, etc. Hopefully he had a Will, if so, the Executor is now in charge. And that person cannot do anything until they go to the probate office and get a short certificate that gives the Executor the ability to handle the estate. All beneficiaries have to be notified that the Will is in probate. Once on file you can request a copy from the County Clerk. The Executor has to follow the Will.
You clearly have a good heart and cared for this gentleman, but you had a job. The job has ended, and you should have no expectations of receiving cars or anything beyond your paycheck, no matter what your client said.
Unless he went to his attorney and put it in writing, there's nothing to those promises. It's completely understandable that he wanted to express his great appreciation for your care and companionship, but unless it's in writing, it means nothing. His family now owns everything.
The first thing that happened was the man next door came and said he was there for the bedroom suite that MIL told his daughter she could have. I was told the same thing. The organizer said the Executor had left no instructions that he was coming for the suite. He had talked to my BILs earlier and said nothing to them.
Then the couple who bought pcs came to pick them up and said that MIL had promised them other things. Again the organizer said there was nothing on her instructions.
It was found at the age of 91 my MIL had promised her car to at least 2 different people. She was told by her lawyer to make codicils for any personal items she wanted to give to certain people. She didn't do it.
If your client wanted you to have the Van he should have written it up and had it notarized. Given you a copy and if he had a Will, placed it with his Will.
I really understand where you are coming from. If you had taken care of my father, I would have given u the Van. But children who are not involved in a parents life are the first ones to be there for their "rightful share". They are not obligated to give you anything but the salary you earned. Since your client/friend was on Hospice he was in his final days. Hospice doesn't come in unless a Doctor says his patient will die within 6 months. Since your client was on Hospice I doubt anything would be done if you went to the authorities.
My daughter witnessed a patient dying from CHF. The woman woke up saying she couldn't breath. My daughter went to get her a shot which works faster than a water pill. By the time she came back the woman was reaching for her and died right in front of my daughter. The woman's lungs had filled up and she literally drowned. Thats how CHF works.
I think you will need to just walk away. Be happy in the knowledge that for a year and a half you may have made this man's life better.